- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My mother is very excited about the wedding. We have picked out the church and reception venue.
My mom is a very emotional individual. We originally decided on a reception venue that we all agreed on. Then as we were going to sign the contract and put down the deposit, she changed her mind and said she did not like the venue. I told her that if she didnt like it from the start she should have spoken up before the contract was about to be signed. Now we have agreed on another venue, it is slightly more expensive than the other place we checked out. She said that the place is fabulous and the cost is no issue. My fiance and I’s parents are both splitting the wedding 50/50.
Now once again my mom is changing her mind, not about the location of the reception, but the cost of the event. She told my fiance’s mother that she cannot afford that much. This is causing alot of tension between the moms, and unfortunately for my fiance and I.
I have talked to my mom about being honest and to express her feelings upfront to everyone. But she calls and tells me about her change of mind and wants me to inform everyone of her thoughts. She is stressing everyone out with all this mind changing. I understand that she is putting her money towards the wedding and has alot of say about how her money is spent, but she says one thing and then does another thing. For example; we have a guest list of around 250 ppl, she went ahead and called the venue and told the wedding coordinator that the guest list has been reduced to 180 ppl without consulting myself, my fiance, or my future mother in-law.
I feel like she is putting me in the middle and I feel like the bad guy in this situation. Both of our fathers are retired and its just the mothers who are working. My mom said money is not a problem then says she cant afford it. Yet, myself and my fiance are working 2 jobs, but my mom will not pick up extra hours or work overtime to help her son have the wedding of his dreams.
Sorry if this is too long, I guess I just needed to vent. If anyone has any suggestions for me it would help alot.