(Closed) Help with my guest list issues

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who Do I Invite?
    Invite my boss and the other full timer to be nice : (8 votes)
    35 %
    Invite just my boss and not the other girl : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Dont invite either : (14 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m doing a no-coworkers guest list.  I think it opens the door to hurt feelings.  I’m also (partly) in retail and close to a lot of my co-workers (we go to each others’ birthday nights out, and sometimes plan girls nights), but are not ‘close’ friends.  I might invite one, but I know she would not tell anyone else that she was invited.  She gets it because she planned her own wedding a few years ago.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would just invite the two that you consider friends, and ask them not to talk about it at work. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My Future Sister-In-Law is going through this exact same thing… and only inviting some coworkers but not all of them created a LOT of drama.  I think going all or none is the best way to avoid the stress and drama.  Especially if you think the boss wouldn’t even go, then it’s easier to just invite her and let her decline rather than deal with any possible hurt feelings.

    Post # 6
    Member
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’ve gone through the same thing.  I got the whole “are you going to invite me to your wedding?”  Who does that!!  One, you weren’t on the list to begin with, but now, you definitely aren’t on the list because you asked.  Moving on…

    If you don’t think that she would come, then invite her.  It’s not up to you to make sure that she is having a good time if she is awkward.  But, it comes down to whether you want her there.  Don’t invite her just to invite her…it’s difficult, but in the long run, it’s not going to matter.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Screw that. Invite who you really want. Tongue Out

    Post # 8
    Member
    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @Gavinsmamma:  I only invited people who I socialize with outside of work, 1 of which is one of my BMs.  My other coworker will be discrete.  My boss is not invited.  I’m not really sure if she is offended or not, but I told her a while back that we were having ‘as small a wedding as possible’ when she asked me why I didn’t talk about my wedding that much.

    The last coworker wedding she got invited to, she RSVP’d yes but made a lame excuse and was a no-show which REALLY set my mind to not invite her.

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