Post # 1
Member
339 posts
Helper bee
Ok. Ladies I need some help here. I knew from the min I started planning that we were going to be having a big wedding. I thought Maybe 200 people. Now we have passed that number and it just keeps getting bigger. My Parents are paying for the wedding so I am pretty much letting them invite whoever they want to invite and they really havent seemed concerned about the list.
My issue is tho I have a dilema with inviting people from my job; I have been at my job for 4 years and I have decided there are a few people I am very close to that I definatly want to come but there are a few people I am just not sure of.
I work in a retail store were there are 5 full time people and then 2 part time people. I have already decided I will not be inviting the 2 part time people since we are not that close and 1 of the new full time people because I just dont know her very well. There are 2 full timers I know I want to come but me dilema is the other 2. One of them is my boss who is socially awkward and dosent really like big to-dos’s so I dont think if she was invited that she would come but if she did come I think it would be uncomfortable. The other is a girl who is been there as long as I have that I originally talked to a lot but that I dont talk to outside of work at all.
Post # 3
Member
1375 posts
Bumble bee
I’m doing a no-coworkers guest list. I think it opens the door to hurt feelings. I’m also (partly) in retail and close to a lot of my co-workers (we go to each others’ birthday nights out, and sometimes plan girls nights), but are not ‘close’ friends. I might invite one, but I know she would not tell anyone else that she was invited. She gets it because she planned her own wedding a few years ago.
Post # 4
Member
2854 posts
Sugar bee
I would just invite the two that you consider friends, and ask them not to talk about it at work.
Post # 5
Member
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
My Future Sister-In-Law is going through this exact same thing… and only inviting some coworkers but not all of them created a LOT of drama. I think going all or none is the best way to avoid the stress and drama. Especially if you think the boss wouldn’t even go, then it’s easier to just invite her and let her decline rather than deal with any possible hurt feelings.
Post # 6
Member
685 posts
Busy bee
I’ve gone through the same thing. I got the whole “are you going to invite me to your wedding?” Who does that!! One, you weren’t on the list to begin with, but now, you definitely aren’t on the list because you asked. Moving on…
If you don’t think that she would come, then invite her. It’s not up to you to make sure that she is having a good time if she is awkward. But, it comes down to whether you want her there. Don’t invite her just to invite her…it’s difficult, but in the long run, it’s not going to matter.
Post # 7
Member
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
Screw that. Invite who you really want. 
Post # 8
Member
1199 posts
Bumble bee
@Gavinsmamma: I only invited people who I socialize with outside of work, 1 of which is one of my BMs. My other coworker will be discrete. My boss is not invited. I’m not really sure if she is offended or not, but I told her a while back that we were having ‘as small a wedding as possible’ when she asked me why I didn’t talk about my wedding that much.
The last coworker wedding she got invited to, she RSVP’d yes but made a lame excuse and was a no-show which REALLY set my mind to not invite her.
Post # 9
Member
339 posts
Helper bee
Thanks Ladies I guess it is a hard decision to make for me since I talk to my boss and we are friendly, have seen each other outside of worka few times. We always invite each other places, like drinks ect, but beither of us ever go. I will probably just stick with my original plan and not invite her.
