(Closed) Help with my timeline discussion.. (important stuff at bottom :)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

He wants kids- maybe you should broach the subject around that- how soon does he want them, how long does he want ot be married before having them, how long does he want to be engaged- then do backways math- calculate for him and put it against your current age. If you are older, make a joke out of it— “he he, we better get a move on it due to our age lol”.

Post # 4
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sigh. I will never understand why people think that a lack of communication is more effective than having all the cards on the table. Just be honest with him! Let him know that you’re looking to the future with your condo and that you want a family and were curious what his timeline for family-related stuff was. It doesn’t have to be an intimidating conversation. Marriage success = communication success. Withholding communication about one of the biggest steps you’ll ever take is cutting your relationship off at the knees.

Post # 6
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Unless you say, “If you don’t X by Y date, then I’m out of here”, then it’s a discussion about a timeline, not an ultimatum talk.

Post # 7
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am not the best at expressing myself sometimes either so I know how you feel.  You sent him a text earlier today letting him know that you want to talk about your future tonight so hopefully he has spent the day thinking about it.  Whatever you do, don’t leave the conversation tonight without getting all of your questions answered!  You said you were looking to get a ‘rough’ timeline from him…I say get a very EXACT timeline from him.  Good luck tonight….please let us know how it goes!!

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