Post # 1
My wedding is one year from now. I’ve picked my wedding party…coworker, sister-in-law, sister, friend, cousin, and a childhood friend. Every one of my bridesmaids have been so supportive so far except one. My childhood friend…we’ve had so many memories, so many fun times and so many nights we won’t forget. She’s still in state but went away for college. Whenever she comes back into town to see her family she never tells me. Next week is my engagement party, being less than an hour away & she says she can’t come home that weekend. This summer whenever I plan on getting all of my ladies together so they can get to know each other and we can start doing some shopping…she’s going away on two very long trips (Jamaica for example). All of my other bridesmaids have talked to me about colors, designs, dresses and etc but every since I asked her if she’d be my bridesmaid (almost 4 months ago) she hasn’t talked to me since. All she’s doing is stressing me out. What should I do about my childhood friend?
Post # 2
sarahroby: has is occur to you that maybe she has no interest in your wedding, nor this friendship since now you both or not as close as you use to be?
People have somehow have the notation that they must invite their childhood friends because they were once close. Keyword is once, because it doesn’t happen anymore. People move on, maybe it’s time to let her go because it’s so one sided?
Post # 3
sarahroby: I am assuming she accepted when you asked her to be a BM? Perhaps she just feels that your wedding has to take a place on the backburner for her right now. It is a year away , she is in college and year -end exams are coming up. Plus she has two trips to plan .
I suggest it is far to early in the planning process to be worried about her lack of participation.
Post # 4
It sounds like her life is taking her in a different direction. Maybe she went of to college and is growing apart from you. Sounds like she definitely doesn’t consider being in your wedding a priority.
From an experience I had with a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I had to cut one who was not being supportive. It was pulling teeth to get her to commit to her dress and everything dress I picked (not expensive, $75 tops) she said she hated and would not wear.
Sometimes you have to cut ties instead of drag them along. If you keep her in the bridal party, as it gets closer and more stressful, you will regret not doing it sooner!