Post # 1
I’m new here but I have a question I need some assistance with.
My fiance and I are not sure what to do. Neither one of us practice our religions and neither does our family. We are not anti-religion, it just sort of happened that way. My family is Protestant and his family is Greek Orthodox. He has mentioned a few times that he would like to get married in a church but I’m not really sure what I should do to go about doing this. Do we have it in a protestant church or a G.O. church or what? I know I could just do it outside or whatever… not really sure if there are any other options…. If anyone has any other suggestions they would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
There are a lot of churches that will marry you regardless of your membership as long as you are willing to go through pre-marriage counseling (which is often standard.)
Otherwise you should check out http://www.celebrantinstitute.org – this was recommended to me on here when I was looking for an atheist/humanist ceremony, but they work with you to create your ceremony, so you can include elements of spirituality if you want.
This site is helpful and was also recommended to me: http://www.interfaithofficiants.com
I hope that helps!
Post # 4
Are there some chapels in your area? In my hometown there are several literally non-denominational (as in, no church has a stake in them) where people can get married and you just hire an officiant/minister to do the wedding there.
Post # 5
Those are awesome starts for me…Thank you!
Post # 6
Hi karab819. I see you are new, so welcome to Wedding Bee! I’m an Orthodox Christian, so hopefully I can be a bit helpful on that end. You can get married in an Orthodox church if he is Orthodox and you are Protestant (if you have been baptized). However, unless you have a very untraditional priest, you would not be able to have an Orthodox service outside (it has to be done inside a church). If you are at all interested in this option, you should contact a local priest (is his family at least affiliated with a church?) Depending on the parish and the priest, they might have certain requirements like premarital counselling/regular attendance prior to the ceremony/letter from your church stating you are in fact baptized etc. I do caution you that if neither one of you are connected to a church, and his family does not attend regularly, some priests may have issues marrying you in an Orthodox church. The main thing though is that you get in touch with a local priest and discuss this with him. Despite the fact that our church is quite conservative and inflexible on certain things, there is a great great great deal of variety between priests/parishes – so you never know until you contact one directly. I hope this helps you in some way and that you are able to find an option (Prostestant/Orthodox/etc.) that works best in your situation.
Post # 7
Thank you for your information bamm,
I’m not sure if you or anyone else knows, what if it is the other way around? If he wanted to get married in a Protestant church? Do you know what the steps would be then? They would probably have the same sort of things with counseling and such.
The church that I was baptized in has since closed which is partially the reason for my families deterrence from religion and his family is affiliated with a church (sort of) and he was christened/baptized (sorry to sound shallow but I don’t even know what Greek Orthodox religion calls it).
Back to lilyfaith, Do you know from experience at all what my options are for holding a ceremony with an officiant (for a site)? Do they have their own recommendations usually for a church or chapel if I don’t have a ceremony site already?
Post # 8
I actually used to be Protestant (I’m a convert) – but it totally depends on which denomination you go to. My family is United Church of Canada (the largest Protestant denomination in Canada) which is a very very liberal church in Canada. They will marry people regardless of affiliation/baptism (although again, depending on the church, they may want you to attend some services/meet with the minister for counseling). However, if you go to a very conservative church, they may have very strict restrictions. Again, I would see if your denomination has a church in the area and check with them. If they don’t, there are lots of Protestant denominations which are very flexible especially if you are both from Christian traditions.
If you can’t find one in your area, lilyfaith had an excellent suggestion. As to church buildings, in my particular area, there is a pioneer village with historic churches on site where you can get married (if you bring your own officiant), and there were small chapels at both of my universities which could be rented out for religious or secular ceremonies.