Post # 1
I partied a lot in college. I still party on weekends. But now I’m in the real world, and my roommate (with a lax work schedule) has been having TONS of people over on weeknights. Partying really loud, and then I wake up early for work tiptoeing around everyone passed out in my living room.
Last night I couldn’t fall asleep until 5 am, and I had to get up for work at 5:30. I really like her, and she’s sweet overall, I think she just doesn’t realize that it’s not okay!!! I’m VERY unconfrontational, and I’m terrified of bringing it up because it’s going to make things awkward. I don’t want her to think I’m some uptight loser.
Also, she pays half the rent. I can’t just be controlling and demand that she can’t have her friends over on weeknights.
-sleepless in the chi.
Post # 3
“I was just wondering if you could have your get togethers during the weekend? I have get up really early in the morning and would greatly appreciate it.”
Post # 4
that is NOT COOL. I am terrible at this kind of thing. I would probably send her an email because I wouldn’t want to ask her to her face.
Post # 5
pretty sure having a roommate means you should be considerate of their needs as well. request that she not do it.
Post # 6
She probably doesn’t realize it’s bothering you so much. She can’t read your mind, after all, so if you don’t let her know otherwise she’ll keep on thinking everything is hunky-dory, and the mid-week parties will continue.
Sounds like you get along well, I bet she’d be willing to make some changes if you ask. Wouldn’t you, if the roles were reversed? Say something like “I hate to sound like a boring grown-up, but I have a hard time sleeping when lots of people are over and it’s affecting my job. I’d appreciate it if you saved the big parties for the weekends and keep the weekday gatherings small and low-key.” or something along those lines. Work together to find a compromise you both can agree on.
Post # 7
My roommate does this and she lives IN MY DORM ROOM so I totally understand how its a problem LOL. I talked to her about it and she know knows that if she comes in and I am in bed then she can’t be loud and the lights should stay off. She has people over when I am going to be out or they hang out in the hallway. You both need to talk and come to an agreement