(Closed) Help With Pastor!! Need Advice..

posted 10 years ago in Christian
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

How awful! It is surprising how hard it is to find a good pastor. We ended up going through four before we found the one that did our ceremony. I would definately email the other pastor. If you’re going to have premarital counseling you want someone you feel comfortable with and its clearly not the guy you’re currently dealing with. We passed on two officiants because I thought they just didn’t seem sufficiently interested in us and our wedding. It was really important to me that we have a ceremony that reflected us our our lives, and we did finally get someone who did a wonderful ceremony and has become a good friend as well. If you can’t get a pastor you feel comfortable with from your venue, maybe ask them about bringing in an outside officiant.

Post # 6
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10 posts
Newbee

I agree with suzanno that the pastor who officiates your wedding makes a big difference. Marriage is a very important union, and you don’t want a pastor who doesn’t seem to care about that to be the one that marries you! I think emailing the first pastor is fine. I’m not exactly sure how you can word it, but I would think that telling him that you feel more comfortable with him officiating your wedding would be ok.

Post # 8
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I realize that our generation deals in emails – but for this, you want to call.  You shoud express your concerns while explaining that you were hoping to work with him. You don’t want to be pointing fingers, but just expressing that you geel more comfortable with Pastor A and that you were less than thrilled with your exchanges with Pastor B.  I HIGHLY suggest calling though just beacuse emails don’t always convey tone of voice or thought properly and the last thing you want is your request being misinterpretted.

Post # 9
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree, I think calling would be better at this point. You want to be clear in your communication, and I think phone is best for that.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I do think it’s ok. You’re pastor should be someone who’s going to be able to be happy and calming to you. I would explain the situation, and ask for someone new.

 

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