Post # 1
Hi there! I’m having trouble with my vows. I finally have everything I want to say written down, but part of me thinks they are too long. I know they are personal, but any feedback you all have is much appreciated!
Thank you so much!
His name here,
I remember the night you first told me you loved me. It was about 3 weeks into our relationship, and part of me thought you were completely nuts for saying it so early. But I knew in my heart that I shared the same feeling, that you were something special. Now, standing here together on our wedding day, I can’t imagine my life without you. You are my teacher, my confidant, and my shoulder to cry on. You support me in meeting challenges with my best effort, all the while assuring me that I am enough just as I am, even when I have a hard time believing that for myself. You put up with my stubbornness, and the fact that I’m a Redskins fan and don’t know the first thing about soccer. I love how big your heart is, and how hard you try to bring out the best in me, and everyone around you. You understand me better than I understand myself. Thank you for loving me for who I am, for always being by my side, and for teaching me what love is really about. You make everyday more exciting than the last, and I look forward to waking up next to you each morning to see what new adventure awaits us.
So, today, and for the rest of our lives, I promise to encourage you, to take care of you, to laugh with you on the good days, and comfort you in times of struggle. I promise to pack you good lunches, and try to make sure my dirty clothes end up in the hamper (on a somewhat regular basis). I promise to forgive you for being a Giants fan, and to listen to Phish (in moderation). I promise to try and learn and remember the rules of soccer, and watch intently when there is a world cup qualifying match on. But in all seriousness, I promise to love you not only when it is easy, but also (and especially) when it is difficult. I vow to be true to you, whether life finds us together or miles apart. I promise to remember that we are two different people who deal with problems in different ways. I vow to remember that we are a team, that we are always in it together, and that we are stronger together than we are apart.
Most importantly, I promise to try every day to be a wife who is worthy of your love. Thank you for being the love of my life. My biggest supporter. And my best friend. I am so proud to call you my husband today.
Post # 2
carriebee9: I’d agree they are a bit long. Can you pick out perhaps one or two very personal aspects? The general parts are wonderful I love this section “I love how big your heart is, and how hard you try to bring out the best in me, and everyone around you. You understand me better than I understand myself. Thank you for loving me for who I am, for always being by my side, and for teaching me what love is really about. You make everyday more exciting than the last, and I look forward to waking up next to you each morning to see what new adventure awaits us. ”
That’s really lovely. The repeated very personal, day to day stuff (laundry) isn’t going to be captivating to much of the audience, I wouldn’t think. It waters down the really beautiful wording, in my opinion.
Post # 3
I really like the vows but I think they are too long for a ceremony. I’m writing my vows as well. I’m getting married July 5th. I found when I wrote everything down, like you, it was just too long. After giving it some thought, I got a yellow highlighter. I approched my vows as if I were a student taking notes. What were the most important sentences I HAD to include. It’s not the most romantic way to edit vows but for practical purposes it worked.
I’m going to PM you with my editing suggestions.
My “editing” suggestions –
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I really love them! When you say them out loud its really not long. It just looks long. Stick with them!
Post # 5
I actually really love them as is! They sound great, personal, and with a touch of humor. I personally wouldn’t think they were too long if I were attending your wedding. It’s your day! Make your vows as long as you want! It’s your chance to make all these sweet promises to your husband, don’t cut them down because you feel you’re expected to!
Post # 6
Thank you so much for all of the feedback. I timed myself and it came out to just under 2 minutes. Of course, I will probably be a blubbering mess by the end so it may be a bit longer day-of.
I love the suggestion of writing them out physically and taking a highlighter to them. If I end up highlighting the whole thing, then I know all of it was important enough to me to say.
Seriously, ya’ll have been a huge help! Thanks for the advice, and keep it coming! 🙂
Post # 7
I would suggest you use parts as a speech/toast at the reception, if you’re doing that. I think the parts that are more history/feelings instead of actual vows would make a really great speech on their own!
Post # 8
I say keep it all. They are lovely, and it’s not about what your guests find interesting. It’s about what you want to say to your husband on such an important day. Keep every word!
Post # 9
I think it’s lovely and sweet just as is…I would not change it. It’s really not that long.