(Closed) Help with Preggo friend

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldn’t pay for her. If she shows up oh well. I just wouldnt depend on her going. 2 weeks after I had my son I was in bed with him still in a little pain. not only that but Boy was I tired for waking up every 2 hours. I can almost bet money on it that she doesnt show up to your wedding and if she does she will probably miss the food.

Post # 4
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

When I was pregnant with Moose, I RSVP’d “yes, as long as Moose let’s me.” However, I wasn’t invited to anything else. I called and made sure that was okay because I wasn’t wedding planning at that time and she said it was fine.

In your friend’s defense, when you’re pregnant, there isn’t much else on your mind. You have “bride brain,” but she has “baby brain.” It’s like “bride brain,” except you’re carrying a living person around inside of you, stressing over becoming a parent, and whether something will happen to your baby (cord wrapping, etc). If you’re not that close, be honest with her that your mom had to apy for her $40 plate at the shower she didn’t come to and you don’t want to be out $300 for her not coming to the wedding. Tell her you’re fine if she comes, but being that pregnant is difficult, so you don’t want to pressure her.

All that said, it was very wrong of her to not show to your shower after she said she would and ruin the surprise to boot. Just remember: wedding are important, but no where near as important as having a baby.

Post # 5
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would just be honest with her, let her know that you want her there, but you’re afriad that with the newness of becoming a mom, she might be too stressed and too busy/tired to make it. 

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