- 4 years ago
I have an issue and need some opinions. My bff’s son and his wife bought a new puppy on a whim and the wife decided she didn’t want him. When he got the puppy, the son and I talked about the puppy and which vet I use for my dog and timeline for puppy shots I used from my vet and from internet research. He said the puppy was 5 weeks old at the time and just adorable.
Fast forward few weeks and his wife decied she doesn’t want the puppy as she didn’t wnat to clean up after him and he was rarely home after work and school. i found out they’re getting rid of him so I volunteered to take him. I was already looking for a second dog and they said they knew how well I treated my dog and would be happy to give him to me. I took him that night and the next day, I called my usual vet and made an appointment. Why so sudden? Well, the son admitted he never took the baby for his shots, despite now being 11 weeks. They had no papers on him, not even proof of first vaccination. They said he was puppy pad trained, dewormed (but no vet involved) and healthy. He’s a shih tzu and had very long fur touching the ground. We agreed because we didn’t know how my other dog would be with him after being an only dog, I would bring him back to them if I couldn’t keep him.
I noticed the night I took him that he was itching like crazy. I suspected fleas. Next day at the vet, they decided since he had no record, we’d do the full puppy shots and I asked for all the tests. He definitely had fleas, worms and intestinal parasite. He had his shots and some medicine and that night, the poot guy got so sick, he threw up about 15 times and I took him to the emergency vet. They said it was the poor guy having reaction to all the meds and his intestinal parasites. The same day, I noticed when I brushed him, his fur was coming out in clumps. He was not taken care of AT ALL. Plus when my 2 year old dog and he started playing, the little one played rough. He bit my dog and scratched him as his way of playing. I found out they took the puppy to his mom’s house and my friend has 3 dogs and two of them like to bite and play rough. He picked it up there. She does not train her dogs and they’re not vaccinated either and the youngest is not potty trained still and eats her own feces. (I’ve told her many times how irresponsible it is and yet, she won’t go to the vet) The little pup picked up all his bad habits there.
I work from home and I gave him ALL attention I could, even during work. He’s sweet but his bad habits are not breaking. Plus he is eating and hoarding poop in the minute it takes me to go get a drink or even go to the bathroom. My other dog is not warming up to him and found out he had a few small scabs from the litle one biting or scratching him during play. While I could break the bad habits, I can’t have him hurting my other dog so despite my effort and attachment, I decided I can’t keep him. This is where the issue comes in.
I did agree I would return the dog to them but I can’t. I’ve talked to them at length yesterday and told them everything as far as how bad the dog was when I took him in. My concern was if I return him, would he receive the care and training he needs? I fully believe he needs to be an only dog to someone who can give him a lot of attention and training. I refuse to give him to my friend and her 3 untrained, unvaccinated dogs and the son and his wife who didn’t even want him after few weeks. The son flipped out to say the least when I said I didn’t think any of us were fit and he just kept mentioning money he paid while I pointed out I spent more than him on his vet care. I said he needed more than we can give him. My friend understands and actually agrees. The son however literally flipped out on me and he’s lied and yelled on the phone. I cannot tolerate this behavior and really don’t want to give the poor little pup to him. He said it’s just a dog and he will treat him how he wants and that it’s his dog. I said he was under my care and I just wanted him to go to a good home and that it was not an insult to him. I said if he’s taking that as an insult, I’m insulting myself too as I think he deserves better than even myself.
Am I wrong bees? I can’t have him hurting my other dog constantly. I can’t let him go to a house full of unvaccinated dogs. I can’t let him go back to the house where he won’t be cared for. The main reason I talked to the son was to discuss his care if I returned him but he didn’t even let me talk. He yelled and started calling me names and I just kept calmly trying to get his attention so I can explain. I found a couple who’s older and their old dog passed away and would love a new puppy and they’re home and can give him all the attention in the world and he would be an only dog. I am not asking for money. I told my friend’s son that we are both losing out on this if money was an issue.
What is the right thing to do? I don’t want to lose my bff and her family but this little puppy deserves so much better.