Help with relationship..

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

This is a crappy relationship and you shouldn’t be dating this guy or marrying him.

Post # 3
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331 posts
Helper bee

He’s gaslighting you. I would seriously end that relationship. You need a partner who will be reliable in good times and bad, and it doesn’t sound like he’s able to do that. This is emotional abuse. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Red flags.  He is attacking you and blaming you.  Do you really want to marry someone who calls you “mentally ill”???

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Run. He’s verbally abusive and he is gaslighting you — those are both 100% dealbreakers. It sounds like you got engaged in the honeymoon stage and he’s now showing you his true colors; do not sign up for a lifetime of this.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

My gosh – Bee. This definitely sounds like gaslighting. He sounds plain awful! We can’t tell you what to do, but know if he’s like this now, he’ll be like this when you’re married, worse even as behaviour like this only escalates. Clearly he doesn’t take stress or change well – what happens when you have kids (arguably the most testing, stressful thing you can do)? 

I know it’s really difficult – pouring years of your life into one person, only to walk away from it. But for the sake of your own sanity and quality of life, think long and hard about the person he is before you marry him.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

This is bad. He blames his shitty behavior on “needing space” when you’ve seen him twice in a month and have been away at school?? 

Bee, HE doesn’t want to be in this relationship anymore–you should stop wanting to be, too. Get out now. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I am so sorry you’re dealing with this bee, hugs. You do not deserve this kind of treatment, from anyone, fiancé or not. Getting laid off is absolutely no excuse to treat someone you care about that way and you should not need to constantly forgive him for such abuse. I realize it’s easy for the rest of us to say breakup with him and call of the engagement, but I really do think you need to take a step back from the relationship yourself to really consider whether you can, and Lee importantly, want to spend the rest of your life like this. Best of luck ❤️

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

There are so many MEN out there who would never treat you this way. The fact that he said the engagement was the biggest mistake speaks volume. You deserve more, dump him. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

This is not at all normal or acceptable.  I would run far far away from this jerk. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

egbeehive :  

He’s an abuser, Bee.  Getting engaged was your biggest mistake.  You know better now. Run far, run fast from this one.  It only gets worse from here.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I’m sorry OP, anyone who told me that asking me to marry them was their biggest mistake would get a fast-track ticket the hell out of my life. Why on earth would you sign up for a life full of that bullshit?? Engagements should be happy and exciting, do you think you can ever get past the things he’s said to you? How could you ever be excited about marrying this asshole? I’d be done. No second thoughts about it. Sorry bee!

Post # 13
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Honey bee

This relationship is on life support and the plug should be pulled. This is not healthy or ok. You sound very young, or am I mistaken? 

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