(Closed) Help with rsvp

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@sburger555:  your Fiance is incorrect. your invitations should be mailed 6-8 weeks before the event, with an RSVP deadline of 1-2 weeks before the event. 


“The favour of your reply is requested by ….. ” is the standard.


It seems like sending out invites early is helpful, buit it really  isnt. Many guests won’t know their schedules too far ahead of time, and then people will have to change their reply or say no, because they know.

Post # 4
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would set the RSVP date to be a week before you have to submit final numbers to your caterer. That will give you time to contact the inevitable non-responders by phone, email, facebook- whatever it takes.

Unfortunately, you really can’t say ” If we don’t hear from you by July 24 we will :

a) asssume you are not coming, and

b) will not provide a seat, beverages or food for you.”

Everyone knows why they need to respond, aside from simply being courteous, so it wouldn’t help to explain why you need the responses by a certain date.

Post # 6
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Good info here from julies1949:  

Ok for the record, I am an Etiquette Snob… so let me provide for you the traditional wording for a Reply / RSVP Card …


accepts ______

regrets ______

The favour of your reply is requested by July 24


The text would differ if you use the

 ___ seats are being reserved in your honor format

OR if you are having a Plated Meal with Main Course Choices for your Guests (not French Service or Buffet)… and therfore require the Guest to submit with their Reply which Main Course(s) they are selecting..

Hope this helps,




Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Far more casual (does that line up with your Wedding vision & the rest of your Invite Suite ?)

But ya it works.


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