Help with Thank You Cards – which one should we use?

posted 2 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Which thank you card layout should we use?

    1!

    2!

    3!

    None of the above, you should throw another wedding and take new photos ;)

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Option 1, you can see your faces best in it! Can you shift it a little to the left so you’re both in the center?

    Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper

    If your wedding was in July and you are first ordering now then none of the above. People are much more interested in knowing their gifts were received and appreciated in a timely way than waiting for photo cards thank you cards. They should really be done ASAP at this point. Whatever you do, just a reminder that each person still needs a personalized, handwritten note included. I assume you know the cards don’t stand on their own. 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - City, State

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    weddingmaven :  that was unnecessary. More often than not, people send out thank you cards in the 4-6 month period nowadays. People like seeing the photos and anyone who is obsessively checking their mail days after a wedding to see where their thank you card is needs something more productive to do. I think there could’ve been a much kinder approach to speak to OP/stay relevant to her topic. 

     

    OP, I love 3 the most! Such beautiful photos!! Maybe do a thank you card that has photo on the back too? I couldn’t decide between two and that’s what we did!

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2019

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    weddingmaven :  A wedding we went to last october didnt send thier Thank You Cards out untill this October… A WHOLE YEAR! and guess what its NO BIG DEAL! PLUSS it was a generic thank you note inside… and it didnt hurt my feelings!

    OP, picture #3 is my favorite!!! 

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    love love love #3!! congrats 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee

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    weddingmaven :  Sorry disagree. I LOVE thank you cards with the couple’s wedding photos. And it often takes 2 months just for the couple to get those wedding photos; so I don’t mind waiting.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Fortunately OP, the vast majority of your guests are not sitting by the mailbox angrily waiting for your thank you note to arrive, meticulously calculating exactly how long it’s been since your wedding. Most people will be happy to receive a thank you note whether it comes two weeks after your wedding, six months, or a year. 

    All three photos are beautiful but I think I like the third the best. I like that you can see the guests in the background – seems fitting for a thank you note!

     

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    They are all lovely photos, you guys look beautiful!  For a card, my fav is #3, because it feels the most celebratory and energizing.  I also really like #2, more serene, maybe you could frame it and display it at home.

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

     Using other people’s poor responses, hardly justifies anyone else taking their time with thank -you notes. I don’t know about your mothers, but mine certainly taught me that  “So and So did it” didn’t mean I could.

    Thank- you notes should be sent asap after a gift is received. Waiting for photographs delays that, unless they send you a perfect sneak peak pic. I doubt the OP and her husband are  going to change their mind sand start writing their thank-you notes without waiting for their chosen pics.One can only hope they get them out as soon as possible after the receive them.

     

     

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper

    The photos are really beautiful and the comments were not meant to be unkind. But this is an advice board. If someone is asking whether to delay notes for this purpose it’s not inappropriate to point out that you properly have two or three months, tops to send thank you notes.

    Will your close friends and family send an angry mob to your house if they are later than that? Of course not, but for every guest that doesn’t care or notice I assure you there are many who do. And a year later, with a generic note, as one person mentioned? That’s outright rude and barring extenuating circumstances I’d have to assume the person didn’t appreciate the gift or the effort.

    Think about it. If you do something nice for me, should I wait for months and months or thank you right away? 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper

     weddingmaven :  Her wedding was at the end of july, so it hasn’t even been three months, and according to her last post she just got her photos back from the photographer. I just find it sad that your kneejerk reaction to this thread was to look up when OP’s wedding was (info that was not mentioned in this thread at all), and then take it upon yourself to condescendingly lecture her not only on being timelier with thank you’s, but on including a personalized note too. There’s zero indication here that she would have omitted a personalized note in the first place, so why even go there?

    Yes it’s an advice board and OP’s open themselves to criticism posting here, but come on…

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Yikes. Drama! I get that thank you’s are important, but I don’t think we need to be so easily hurt that we get offended if a couple doesn’t get them out immediately. Is it better? Perhaps. But golly. To directly answer your question, I voted for #2 but I equally love #3!

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper

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    tiffanybruiser :  Sorry you feel that way. I did not at all assume no note would be included. In fact, I said the opposite. I have, however, seen people do this and figured it was worth mentioning. As for looking up the wedding date, in my experience photo thank you notes are almost always delayed.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

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    weddingmaven :  “But this is an advice board. If someone is asking whether to delay notes for this purpose it’s not inappropriate to point out that you properly have two or three months, tops to send thank you notes.”

     

    OP didn’t ask whether or not to delay notes, she was asking which picture did the hive prefer. I’ve actually never heard that thank you’s need to be mailed out in 2-3 months. I’ve always known the etiquette to be within one year. 

     

    I received a thank you card a year later and totally forgot that we didn’t get a card until we received it. It was nice reminder to the lovely wedding we attended and wasn’t offended at all. 

     

    OP, I like #2, the pose and scenery is gorgeous! 

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