Help With The E-Ring

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
173 posts
Blushing bee

 I think if you had that strong a reaction to it, you should trust that more than your mom and sister! It’s really cool and very beatiful!

Maybe give it a couple weeks and see if you feel the same way if you are having doubts though!

Post # 3
2485 posts
Buzzing bee

Are you attracted to the setting, the stone itself, the combination? If it has everything you love, then by all means go for it. But I will say that it’s very non-traditional. I do worry that you might come to wish you had gone a little more traditional.

IF you decide, you want to do something like this, but more traditional, here are the elements you could combine:

– Rose-cut stone. You could stick with round, or go for the original pear you like. Rose cut stones are flat on bottom and rounded on top, but they CAN be set high off the finger for a more traditional look. 
– “Galaxy” or “salt and pepper” diamond. These are heavily included stones, sometimes grey-tinted, that are very cost-effective.
– Chevron band

To source the stone, you couls start by looking at jewelsbygrace and loveaffairdiamonds.

To see examples of quirky-yet-still-traditional settings, look at CaysieVanBebber’s Instagram. For instance, heres a CVB chevron ring: It’s set with an AVR moissanite and I believe sold for ~$2,000…?

Here’s a JewelsbyGrace ring that has rose-cut stones in it:

Here is a BEAUTIFUL bezel-set rose-cut diamond ring:

Since you like pears, you may even look into even fancier shapes like “shields/kites” like this stone:

The nice thing is that all of the above sellers are constantly buying new inventory, so you could get in touch with each to see if they know of any stones like the kinds you’re interested in, and what price point they would be at. 

Post # 4
1408 posts
Bumble bee

Rings should sit as flat as you want them to! And an engagement ring doesn’t have to be your classic high set white diamond solitaire. It should be what makes you and your fiance happy. And if this is it, then go for it!! I actually think that low set rings are more comfortable and snag less. And colored and non-traditional stones and rings are just so much more interesting and personal. They really say something about the person and the couple.

See what your SO thinks, it’s really only your two opinions that matter!

Post # 5
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m personally not a fan of it. However, if you love it you should go for it! 

Post # 6
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

It’s verry pretty! I think your families reaction might be from its non-traditionalist style. I think if I saw that ring on someone’s ring finger, my immediate assumption would not be that it’s an engagement ring… but is that your problem or mine? I think mine (without getting into how social constructs dictate what an e-ring looks like). 


Its truly beautiful! Very unique and you will get lots of compliments. But I also really love the rings that Douchessgummybunns above me posted, and I think you can get “funky” while staying safe. It just depends on what kind of person you are! 

Post # 7
2660 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

doppelgangerr :  my only concern would be that if something ever caught under the stone it could cause a lot of damage where the setting is only attached to the ring on one side

Post # 8
1247 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

doppelgangerr :  That is pretty aggressive on the uniqueness scale.  If you are not 100% certain the “you” that likes this will be the same “you” until you pass, you may want to consider this as a fabulous right hand ring only.  It would also be challenging to find a compatible wedding band.  Not impossible, but challenging. 

Personally?  I love it.  For an engagement ring?  100% no. 

Post # 9
8464 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


doppelgangerr :  

What other people think  – even a beloved sister and mum  – is absoutely beside the point . The only people whose  opinion matters  is you  and him. 

Post # 10
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It’s a really gorgeous ring but it is very different so you are right to give it some thought. Have you looked on Etsy for other reasonably priced options? I used JewelryArtworkbyVick and he has some lovely, affordable black diamond options. Some are very unusual too, like the ones in black gold settings. There are a ton of sellers on there and plenty for people on a budget. 

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