(Closed) Help with the no kids problem

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

@MsBunting:  I would calmly but very clearly state that children will not be able to attend the ceremonies and that they will be in another room.  I’d also say that “if you’re unable to attend because of this, I understand.” and leave it at that.

Post # 4
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I”m not really sure what the problem is…it sounds like she’s happy with your plans? And the kids will be in that extra room with the babysitter…or is she saying that she’ll have Hazel in the reception with her, and you don’t want that?

Post # 5
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with beekiss2. Just repeat that children will be elsewhere, and not allowed in the ceremony/ reception. Let them know it is both you and you FH choice and you would love for them ( the adults)to be there but you understand if they can’t make it due to the child issue. Stay strong. If it’s what you want you have to be prepared for the negative comments, adn be prepared for people who just won’t come because of your decision…… we are going thru the same thing. good luck

Post # 6
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with PinkB – Be firm, but also be prepared for her not to come, or her husband not to come. You’ve done a lot to accommodate them but perhaps they just aren’t ready to leave their kids with someone else. 

A good friend had this policy, and her BIL did not attend the wedding b/c he had to stay with their son. 

Post # 7
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271 posts
Helper bee

I agree, stay strong to what you said originally, it will be unfair to the other kids if you don’t. I fully understand by the way!

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