(Closed) Help with the RD drama need some advice.

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: What kind of RD would you have??
    Keep it at the resturant and pay for the whole thing : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Keep it at the resturant and dont bring anything but enough money for half (moms suggestion) : (4 votes)
    21 %
    Have the pizza party at moms house : (10 votes)
    53 %
    other I'll explain. : (4 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did the Rehearsal Dinner at my parents place and ordered pizzas. Definately cuts the costs down.  Then again my parents also live in the country and we had it outside. My parents borrowed from friends and neighbors picnic tables. We had beer, pop, water, juice and pizza from a local pizza joint. All in all costs was little less than $150.



    Post # 4
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @organizedbride11: If you really don’t want to do it at your mom’s house, do it at the resturant. We did something similar, and to cut costs we did this: Have pitchers of beer, water, and lemonade on the tables (so people aren’t ordering individual drinks). Phone in your order early, and work out gratutuity then. Cut your Rehearsal Dinner down to the minimum amount of people. Then let your inlaws know what the plan is. Cheers!

    Post # 6
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    This reminds me of my Future In-Laws.  They have spoke up about a few things that they would pay for and ended up backing out last minute.  It scares me as well.  I feel like there’s a HUGE chance that they won’t put as much as they say they will.  I can understand if they don’t, but it’s considerate to know well in advance.

    I wish I had advice for you.  I think you really need to do what’s best for you and with what you can simply afford.  I hope it works out in your favor though.  Best of luck!

    Post # 8
    46421 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you want to have it at the restauarant, I would have Fiance call his parents and tell them that they need to go down to the restaurant and leave an imprint of their VISA card to pre-authorize the billing, so they end up paying their half.

    If  you think they are going to cop out on hosting the dinner entirely, then I would switch to your Mom’s house.

    Post # 10
    235 posts
    Helper bee

    Good idea @Julies1949!

    Post # 12
    9 posts

    The day before a wedding everyone is going to want to kick back and relax so I think having the rehearsal dinner at your moms house is a good idea

    Post # 13
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would wait it out. You still have plenty of time before you need to panic about this.

    Post # 14
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We had rather traditional roles for who pays for what– my in laws are picking up the tab and therefore choose the location.  Its not my first choice for location but since I don’t have to worry about planning it, I’m a happy woman =)

    Post # 15
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    What @julies1949 said. If they balk, they’re probably not going to pay for it, so go with your mom’s idea. Maybe you could do it up with a bistro theme or something, if you want it to seem fancier.

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