Post # 1
So a while back Fiance and I decided to do pizza for our rehursal dinner, its cheap and everyone likes pizza (for the most part) So we picked a really nice italian resturant in town and booked our dinner. FIs parents were originally going to pay for all of the rehursal dinner, then they changed their tune and said they would pay for half. Well we are still about 75 ish days out,and Im worried it will go down to we wont pay at all. So my mom suggested to me that we just order pizzas and do it at her house. she said it will be cheaper, and it will without the gratuity and everything like that. Probably cut the bill in half, but I just dont want to do that. Then again there isnt much I can do Fiance and I are paying for the whole wedding and didnt plan to have that expense. So what would you do??
Post # 3
We did the Rehearsal Dinner at my parents place and ordered pizzas. Definately cuts the costs down. Then again my parents also live in the country and we had it outside. My parents borrowed from friends and neighbors picnic tables. We had beer, pop, water, juice and pizza from a local pizza joint. All in all costs was little less than $150.
Post # 4
@organizedbride11: If you really don’t want to do it at your mom’s house, do it at the resturant. We did something similar, and to cut costs we did this: Have pitchers of beer, water, and lemonade on the tables (so people aren’t ordering individual drinks). Phone in your order early, and work out gratutuity then. Cut your Rehearsal Dinner down to the minimum amount of people. Then let your inlaws know what the plan is. Cheers!
Post # 5
@Sassygrn: Ya the Rehearsal Dinner at the resturant will be slightly over 400 for everyone to have pizza and soda, then it will be a cash bar for anything else. If we do it at my moms it will be around a hundred for pizza then just the cost of drinks. My mom is pushing for this.
@An Alaskan Bride: yes it is a set cost of we do it at the ruhursal per person we will pay for soda but not any alcohol etc. I never considered having less people there, I assumed with everyone and their SO’s that will be participating in the rehursal it will be about 35 people. Maybe I should think about this more.
Post # 6
This reminds me of my Future In-Laws. They have spoke up about a few things that they would pay for and ended up backing out last minute. It scares me as well. I feel like there’s a HUGE chance that they won’t put as much as they say they will. I can understand if they don’t, but it’s considerate to know well in advance.
I wish I had advice for you. I think you really need to do what’s best for you and with what you can simply afford. I hope it works out in your favor though. Best of luck!
Post # 7
@Rouquine: Im not mad, I just wish that Iwould have known like you said. Thanks for your kind words 🙂 and encouragement. I guess I just need to do whats best for us and not worry about what people will think.
Post # 8
If you want to have it at the restauarant, I would have Fiance call his parents and tell them that they need to go down to the restaurant and leave an imprint of their VISA card to pre-authorize the billing, so they end up paying their half.
If you think they are going to cop out on hosting the dinner entirely, then I would switch to your Mom’s house.
Post # 9
@organizedbride11: Its a casual dinner so having it at the house will be fine.
Post # 11
Thanks for all the great imput ladies!!
@julies1949: I would have never thought of that. Thaks 🙂
Post # 12
The day before a wedding everyone is going to want to kick back and relax so I think having the rehearsal dinner at your moms house is a good idea
Post # 13
I would wait it out. You still have plenty of time before you need to panic about this.
Post # 14
We had rather traditional roles for who pays for what– my in laws are picking up the tab and therefore choose the location. Its not my first choice for location but since I don’t have to worry about planning it, I’m a happy woman =)
Post # 15
What @julies1949 said. If they balk, they’re probably not going to pay for it, so go with your mom’s idea. Maybe you could do it up with a bistro theme or something, if you want it to seem fancier.