(Closed) Help with timing issues…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is the best way to move forward with the Save-the-Date invitations
    Send STDs 10-12 months in advance with Feb 5th as the wedding date and pray schedules don't change : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Send out "Save the Week" invitations allowing for the actual date announcement in formal invitation. : (11 votes)
    50 %
    Wait for 2014 schedule release and send the Save the Dates at less then 8 months to go : (9 votes)
    41 %
    Start looking for a straightjacket now! : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’d do a Save The Week option 🙂

    Post # 4
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    1318 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Why can’t the airline be changed? A lot rides on the date and when flights are booked and everything else. They need to get time off from work, figure out child care if needed. This makes it really tough… hopefully someone can come up with some suggestions…

    Post # 5
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    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @musicalrose:  Am I doing the math wrong?  Isn’t May 2013 (when the new flight schedule is announced) 9 months ahead of Feb 2014 (when you want the wedding)?  And you’re saying you want save the date’s out 8 months ahead of time?  Doesn’t this give you an extra month leeway to account for the time it takes to have the cards printed?  I am either an idiot who can’t count or I’m missing something here lol

    Post # 6
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    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Oh, it does look like earlier in the post you say that you want the STD’s out 10-12 months ahead of time, and that you think it will be less than 8 months ahead when you are able to send them.  Is there some reason why you can’t travel on a different airline?  I imagine some of your guests will want to take more time off then others and you’ll probably have people arriving on different days for the wedding anyway, so I’m not sure how much you really need to worry about one specific airline’s flight schedule. As long as there’s other flights that are available and it’s not an obscure/hard to get to location it should be fine to have it on whatever day you want.  I would keep in mind when it’s easy for people to get time off work and things like that.  Weekends might be better for a lot of people for example.

    You’ve already told everyone that you’re hoping for the first week of Feb 2014 so they know they need to save money for the trip and ask for time off work, etc. so I’m not sure if you really need to formalize it with a STD super early since they already have a general idea of what to expect.  Since you’ve told them roughly when you want the wedding (and they can plan accordingly) I wouldn’t send the STD’s until you have the date finalized.  Also, since they know already what you’re trying to do, I think sending them after the flight schedule is released in May would be fine.

    ETA: I just thought of something else.  If you have your wedding in the middle of the week (the 5th) and there’s only flights available on Monday and Friday then you’re forcing your guests to stay an entire week (would have to come on Monday and not leave until Friday).  I don’t know your situation, but that might be too much to ask from some people.  However, if you have the wedding on a weekend (Saturday for example) then your guests can arrive on Friday and go home on Monday, which would require them to take far less time off work for your wedding.  That won’t matter much if there’s other airlines for your guests to choose from though.  Just something else to consider 🙂

    Post # 7
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    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would email or call the family members/friends who you really want to be there and let them know…or maybe write in an informal ‘save the week’ on your holiday cards this year!

    Post # 8
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    3266 posts
    Sugar bee

    I went save the dates out 8 months before. 

    I don’t like asking people to save a week, when really they only need to save a day or two.  It is a little self important for my tastes. 

    I would start spreading the word though.  People will know about the event if you talk to them, and then you can send the formal STD as a formality.

    I also don’t understand why you MUST fly a certain airlaine.  Is it cause you get a discount or something if people book on yours?  Cause you can’t really make me book your airline.  I would probably book which ever was cheaper, which is probably a last minute deal.

    Post # 9
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    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    First and foremost, I feel that you need to know that the flight/ airline you and your husband will be taking is most likely NOT the one your guests will be taking, especially since the airline only flys out two days a week. The bride and groom can provide their airline information to guest, but in no way are guest obligated to go on that date, or to take the same flight.

    For the destination weddings I’ve been to, the bride and groom fly out to the (lets say Saturday wedding) on Wednesday… and most of the guests fly in thursday night or friday. I’ve always found my own flight to destination weddings, that way I can accomodate MY schedule and MY finances.

    All that being said, I would send out the save the dates for your wedding DATE, and worry about your flight later, because realistically, you two are the only ones it effects (unless you were flying to a private island that required privately chartered flights). If your family is aware its a destination wedding, you should be fine waiting 8-9 months to send the save the date, although personally, I do prefer longer to plan my vacation time accordingly (especially if it’s in February, because then I can plan to “roll over” some vacation time, otherwise I’m taking my vacation 2 months in to the new year.. and that makes for A LONNNNGGGGGG year.

    Just my 2 cents… hope it helps.

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