(Closed) Help with asking groomsman to step down!

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Have you talked to him about the way he has been acting?

I find that a lot of times, trouble between friends in the middle of wedding planning gets handled differently then it would if you weren’t planning a wedding.

Just as an example, I had a problem with my bestfriend in the begining of my wedding planning. If I weren’t planning, I probably would have callled her out on the way she was acting. We would have talked it out and gone back to being friends. But instead, I took everything personal and decided to essentially kick her out of my wedding party.

I regret it so much! We are still friends but I would love to have her stand next to me on my wedding day! 

So, with that said, I think you should first try to mend the friendship. If that doesn’t work, then I would consider asking him to step down.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 4
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Sorry, I don’t think you can ask someone to leave your wedding party and expect to still keep him as a friend. If you value his friendship, I would think about just letting it go and keeping him in the wedding party. Maybe hang out with him one on one and see if you can repare the relationship before hanging out in a group where he maybe felt he had to compete with you.

Post # 6
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Good Luck, that’s a tough situation.

My best guess would be get you and your fiance, with your groomsman and his wife together in a neutral setting and hash it out. If they value your friendship the way it seems you value theirs, then a resolution should be found.

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