- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I’ve been working at my current employer for about 5 years. I have almost 10 years of experience in my industry. I was hired to work for someone different than the person who is currently my boss. I’ve been very satisfied with my job until now because it was challenging, I was learning a lot, and I’ve been promoted twice since starting. My current boss is something else and I need help deciding what to do. I honestly think he has some kind of mental condition – he does not recognize social cues and goes too far all the time. He thrives off of attention even if it is negative attention and is regularly disrespectful to colleagues. He dominates conversations and meetings and does not allow others to offer their insights or opinions. He won’t budge when making decisions-it’s his way or the highway. He regularly is late to meetings so he can have control over the situation. He works 24/7 and often does not sleep-as evidenced by the constant string of emails I receive from him from midnight-6am. Unfortunately his attitude helps his job performance because we regularly have to defend the company’s position to outside parties so his my way or the highway mentality saves the company money.
Since switching roles to work for him, which was a promotion for me (also wanted to mention that I’m a manager with direct reports) he won’t let me take ownership of anything. He hoards work for himself and then complains to anyone willing to listen about how busy he is. In reality, he spends most of his time in the office dicking around and not actually doing any work. Meanwhile I have mastered the simple tasks he has given me and need more work. I spoke up to my old boss about it (she and him “share” me as a manager but my tasks with her are limited) and it got better for a little while. But he still holds back deliverables from me that I need to keep projects moving because “he doesn’t want to have to do more work once the project progresses”. I know I can handle it without him but he won’t relinquish control. Recently he has told me that any email I send needs to have his approval before being sent- even internal emails to different departments- because he needs to review everything to make sure it’s correct. This makes me look like the bad guy because he sits on my drafts for days before approving them. If someone from another department emails me and cc’s him, he tells me not to reply because he wants to. Then weeks later he will reply. It makes me look lazy to outside parties.
I just don’t know what to do. His boss and my old boss have both met with me separately and asked that I don’t leave the company because I have a bright future here but they also didn’t offer any incentive to stay. Right now my career seems really stagnant – I’m not advancing toward anything and I’m not learning anything. My boss has worked here for over 25 years so it seems that they have every intention of keeping him around too. I’ve been looking for jobs but my salary here is very high – I Would be hard pressed to find a similar job with my same salary. I just feel stuck. Any advice is welcome.