(Closed) Help with who and how much to tip

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have no idea about most of this stuff but would love to hear answers from other people! As for the service charge, I feel as though that’s them adding their tip in, and I don’t think I’ll be paying people anymore!

Post # 4
2 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

Great question!

I work at a nice hotel and deal with weddings, so I hope that this answer helps!  The 20% service charge mentioned that the venue charges gets split between the sales manager, catering manager, banquet captains, banquet servers and bartenders & finally the actual venue.  Pretty much anyone that you will directly come in contact with should be receiving a portion of that service charge.  Obviously, it can vary greatly depending on where you go, and since there is no way of finding out exactly who gets how much, my rule of thumb would be:

If there is someone (bridal attendant, server or manager) who clearly goes above and beyond to make your day special… then go the extra step and give them a hundred bucks.  Not sure where you both live, but I would give $100 and I live in a major city.

To answer your question directly about giving an additional 20% like you would in a restaurant… that wouldn’t be insulting- just crazy!  That’s way too much to plan on!  Just make sure that you (or whoever is hosting) carries plenty of 20’s that night.

Good luck to you both!

Post # 5
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I was asking my mom the same question just yesterday.  I know my venue adds 18% tip and the 8% tax. So I know I don’t have to tip them.

But it is the officiant, photographer and DJ that I don’t know about.  My florist is my aunt so she doesn’t count because we help her during the busy times of year for free. 

My thing is. I’m paying the photographer 4,000. Why should I tip them on top of that? Also the officiant is 250.00 for 30 minutes of her time. Does she really need more?

Other brides what are you doing?

Post # 6
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

here’s what I read

florist–no tip, its their own business

photographer–no need its his own business

venue–mine is included; usualy 15-20% depending on geographic location

salon–15% extra

officiant–depends, I may give $100

dressmaker–none,. it’s her own business

DJ– 15%

so the only people I have to worry about is DJ, officiant, my venue already included all taxes and gratuity 23%(8% tax and 15% tip)

Post # 7
13 posts
  • Wedding: January 2008

What about catering?

Post # 8
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Your tip is included in the service charge.  Customarily people when dining out tip between 15 & 20 % and this is the upper level of it if it’s 20%, so consider that already taken care of.

Post # 9
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

my catering is with my venue so the 23% takes care of both


dont know about separate catering, I didnt check that because it didnt apply to me

Post # 10
15 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve been told, and read several  other places, that if a service charge is added into your cost automatically, or if your vendor owns his/her own business, you don’t tip.

 We’re going to try to donate to the Officiant’s church and give gifts to the musicians.  At least we budgeted for that.  But all 5 of them are close personal friends, and I’m not sure they are willing to take the gift even if offered . ..

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