Post # 1
Hi Everyone –
I’m in budget shock land today as things keep ballooning (I was way off in my guess of what we’d be able to pay for tuxes, among other things – we’re covering them for the groomsman).
So I’m trying to add in a line item for the tips we should "expect" to pay, and am somewhat clueless on what to figure in. Is it 20%, the way it would be in a restaurant? Or would that be insulting?
Our venue automatically charges us a 20% service charge, so I’m assuming (and really really hoping) that is the tip and I’m not expected to pay more on top of that. Would love to know if that is a correct assumption!
Other people I’m assuming I need to tip are our string quartet for the ceremony, our DJ, our officiant, and are photographer (husband and wife team, so two people). Is there anyone I’m forgetting? (Hair and make-up too of course, if I go that route).
Also – when tipping is it expected to be cash, or could I do AMEX gift cards? Or could I do a gift card to a local, nice restaurant with a handwritten thank you card and have that be appropriate? I know that I’d spend the same amount of money, but would it be considered more thoughtful?
Any thoughts are greatly appreciated!!!
Post # 3
I have no idea about most of this stuff but would love to hear answers from other people! As for the service charge, I feel as though that’s them adding their tip in, and I don’t think I’ll be paying people anymore!
Post # 4
I work at a nice hotel and deal with weddings, so I hope that this answer helps! The 20% service charge mentioned that the venue charges gets split between the sales manager, catering manager, banquet captains, banquet servers and bartenders & finally the actual venue. Pretty much anyone that you will directly come in contact with should be receiving a portion of that service charge. Obviously, it can vary greatly depending on where you go, and since there is no way of finding out exactly who gets how much, my rule of thumb would be:
If there is someone (bridal attendant, server or manager) who clearly goes above and beyond to make your day special… then go the extra step and give them a hundred bucks. Not sure where you both live, but I would give $100 and I live in a major city.
To answer your question directly about giving an additional 20% like you would in a restaurant… that wouldn’t be insulting- just crazy! That’s way too much to plan on! Just make sure that you (or whoever is hosting) carries plenty of 20’s that night.
Good luck to you both!
Post # 5
I was asking my mom the same question just yesterday. I know my venue adds 18% tip and the 8% tax. So I know I don’t have to tip them.
But it is the officiant, photographer and DJ that I don’t know about. My florist is my aunt so she doesn’t count because we help her during the busy times of year for free.
My thing is. I’m paying the photographer 4,000. Why should I tip them on top of that? Also the officiant is 250.00 for 30 minutes of her time. Does she really need more?
Other brides what are you doing?
Post # 6
here’s what I read
florist–no tip, its their own business
photographer–no need its his own business
venue–mine is included; usualy 15-20% depending on geographic location
officiant–depends, I may give $100
dressmaker–none,. it’s her own business
so the only people I have to worry about is DJ, officiant, my venue already included all taxes and gratuity 23%(8% tax and 15% tip)
Post # 8
Your tip is included in the service charge. Customarily people when dining out tip between 15 & 20 % and this is the upper level of it if it’s 20%, so consider that already taken care of.
Post # 9
my catering is with my venue so the 23% takes care of both
dont know about separate catering, I didnt check that because it didnt apply to me
Post # 10
I’ve been told, and read several other places, that if a service charge is added into your cost automatically, or if your vendor owns his/her own business, you don’t tip.
We’re going to try to donate to the Officiant’s church and give gifts to the musicians. At least we budgeted for that. But all 5 of them are close personal friends, and I’m not sure they are willing to take the gift even if offered . ..