- 11 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So, we are setto get married in 5 1/2 months, I have been doing ALL the planning, by myself, because anytime I ask him about anything he says ” I don’t care, whatever you want, it doesn’t matter” ususally with an eye roll….
So yesterday was his b-day and he had a few beers in him, and we go to bed. Somehow he gets onto the subject of the wedding.
“Don’t take this the wrong way, but us? Getting married? It’s kinda crazy.”
“What do you mean by that?
Well, your doing all this stuff that I don’t care about. And I want you to be happy. But really, been there, done that, didn’t even bother to get a t-shirt (exact words here!) I didn’t really like being married.
Well, what do you want to do? Do you want to get married?
I know you want to, you should have what you want, so I will.
BUT DO YOU WANT TO MARRY ME?
Well, we should I guess. We have kids and stuff. We might as well.
Thats not an answer. Do you actually WANT to marry me or are you doing it bc you think we should?
I don’t know. We should I think. I think I’m wedding phobic. (Which i took to mean marriage phobic-jerk)
So, this is FREAKING me out, how would you take it? He was married before, I wasn’t. He stayed in a bad marriage for their daughter, he was miserable. But he proposed to me un prodded, no pressure from me whatsoever. I offered to elope 3 times, he kept saying NO NO NO you deserve a wedding, which I am now planning and have money invested in and I am half convinced he doesn’t want….I was actually kind of hoping he would be excited about marrying me and happy to do it now I find out he sees it as some sort of duty….I think the only reason he didn’t say yes to eloping is bc it would have pushed the issue and made the wedding happen faster. So what, you have to talk yourself into marrying me? UGHHHHHHHHHHHH help please 🙁