(Closed) Help…ceremony/reception cards for invites! very confused.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you are doing inserts consider writing on the back of the ceremony or reception card. I have my map on oneside and written directions on the other. Second card I have reception info on the front and accomondation info on the back.

Post # 5
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your invitation should include the ceremony venue name, the city, and the state. Your reception card should include the name of your venue, and the city and the state. I would recommend including any other pertinent details — including the specific addresses and the parking information — on your accommodations card and on your website.

Post # 6
1736 posts
Bumble bee

You can add an “enclosure” card in addition to your “reception” card. Many people have an additional card that just features details and points people in the direction of their website for FAQs and such.

Post # 7
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep, it’s pretty common to do an insert card with your reception info on it. The bottom of our invites say “reception to follow” or something like that, and then we have a reception card with the name and address of the venue and some info about parking.

Post # 8
1699 posts
Bumble bee

What I am going to say is likely going to be shocking or strange, but that is because what I am describing is traditional formal good manners, not what is currently commonly done.

A classic aesthetic rule of thumb is “less is more”. Inserts actually decrease the level of formality of your invitation, by making it more similar to an advertising package than a piece of formal correspondence. Another classic aphorism of good taste is “form follows function”. Look at the function of your invitation and inserts, and do not add complexity that serves no function. (Aside to modernists: you are about to argue that “Please come” is simpler and more functional than “requests the pleasure of the company of”, I know you are. It is. A crisp modern-wording invitation for an up-to-date modern celebration is in perfectly good taste — much better, in fact, than some innovative mixed-style adaptions of the classic wording I have seen.)

The function of an invitation is to tell your guests the things they need to know to attend your event:

  • WHO is hosting the event
  • WHOM they are inviting
  • WHAT the event is
  • WHEN it is happening
  • WHERE it is happening

If it is all one event, with a change of venue in the middle such that everyone who attends the ceremony and the reception at the ceremony site if any, is also invited to the wedding dinner-dance (or whatever you are having) at the second location, then you can put all the information on one card, like this:

Mr and Mrs Need Twentyfour
request the pleasure of the company of
<space for you to write in the names of guests
so that you don’t need an inner envelope>
at the wedding of their daughter
Love Isallyou
Mr Future Intended
on Saturday the nineteenth of October
at six o’clock
Nice Resort

Reception to follow at
Other Location
at seven o’clock for half after seven


 Traditionally, the wedding and reception were essentially public events, with nearly all your combined acquaintances invited and uninvited members of the community welcome. Often the Wedding Breakfast was held as a separate, more exclusive affair. In those cases, the last four lines (counting the R.s.v.p: no reply — and NO GIFT! — is expected for a ceremony-only invitation) were written on a separate card, which would be inserted with the main invitation into only those envelopes being sent to the guests who were invited to both. If you are not having different invitations for the two events (a practice currently decried on wedding messageboards and by the wedding industry as a “tiered reception”) then the “form” of separating reception information from the ceremony invitation serves no “function“.

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