(Closed) Help..Cold feet

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6996 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Honestly I think its pretty normal to think about past relationship when you are nearing your wedding. you are making the biggest commitment of your life so its no wonder you think of your past and things that will never be. I don’t think its cold feet and i think its only natural to be nervous for what is to come. It sound so cliche but I really believe when you find the person you are supposed to be with you just know. That doesn’t mean you wont question it but the feeling should be there.


Post # 4
6245 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Don’t live in the past.  You said yourself that the relationship ended badly (it was the greatest realtionship i’ve ever had we had so much fun together until toward the end of the realtionship).  It ended for a reason, right?  And now you’re with the man you’re going to marry.  Obviously I don’t know your history with your ex, but surely there must be reasons why you didn’t end up marrying him.  Stop focusing on the good parts of your ex-relationship and really think about why it ended… and why you’d rather be with your current FH.

Hope you sort this all out!  *hugs*


Post # 5
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree it’s probably normal to think twice about things before you take the leap but i think saying you had your ex had the greatest relationship ever is a little odd. Are you saying it was better then you and your FI? Maybe you should try to focus on why it ended because I am sure it came to end for a good reason if it was such a great relationship. Maybe your giving this relationship too much credit because it was so long ago??

Post # 6
484 posts
Helper bee

If the relationship you had with your ex was the best one you’ve ever had, why are you getting married to someone else? Not trying to be rude, I just find this very odd. Your Fiance doesn’t deserve to be your ‘second best relationship’.

Post # 7
5656 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@BellsforHer: She finished it off with “…until toward the end of the realtionship.”

OP: Your ex is an “ex” for a reason. Remember that.

Post # 8
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I also think it’s normal to compare. I often have dreams about ex’s, but when I wake up I am always really happy to see FH by my side.  Listen to your instincts, but don’t forget that when you look back you tend only to remember the good things and not the day-to-day nonsense.

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