(Closed) Help…Does the Catholic Church only allow you to have 2 Maids of Honor/Best Men

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… I’ve never heard of that at all! My whole family is Catholic and they’ve all had 3-4-5-6 bridesmaids! I’d ask your priest specifically if there are limits for them. It sounds like that was a little wacky.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe it’s because they need two people as witnesses for the marriage certificate and they didn’t want to cause trouble at the ceremony?  I’ve never heard of this rule…

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s not a “Catholic” rule, this would be a rule by a specific church.  Is one married? You could easily have a Matron of honor. I think the main this is to decide which of your two is the official witness and signer of your license.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I’d check with the specific church and priest who will be marrying you to find out for sure.  I would guess that only one Maid/Matron of Honor would sign the marriage license as a witness, so maybe that’s where the confusion came from?  Although I’ve been one of 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and we just split up the duties, so it worked fine. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m with Jessie.

Who you pick to be your MOHs has nothing to do with the church. My thought is that one person from each side has to witness the marriage certificate. I have seen girls split up duties by having one sign the marriage cerificate and the other walk down last and hold the bride’s bouquet. Really the only thing that anyone can see about who is who is what you list in the program. The church only wants one person on the certificate and in their records. That’s all. I would ask your priest, but that’s my assumption.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Whoever told you this is wrong.  If there is some rule like that (which I can’t imagine) it would be a rule for that specific church.

We are getting married in the Catholic Church and just finished meeting with our wedding coordinator at the church this weekend.  Fiance is having 3 best men, which was no problem.  One one may sign the marriage license, which is a state of California thing, but that is the only difference.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t see why not. We were scheduled to have two best men unitl about a month out when one of them was unable to make it due to a family emergency, pre-mature birth of a baby.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s an individual-church rule, not a Catholic Church rule. I think that restriction is pretty rare, and if it does happen to exist at the church you’re getting married in, I would bet that if you explain your reasoning for having two MOHs, and explain what duties each one will have during the ceremony, your priest will be totally okay with it. Don’t stress about it! 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think what is meant is that there are spaces for one witness for each party (bride and groom) on the paperwork. You can have both an Maid and Matron of Honor, but probably only one will sign the witness form.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You should talk to the church you’re marrying in to make sure, but I think you should be fine. I have a matron of honor AND a maid of honor. Like some mentioned, only one will sign the marriage certificate. I plan on just splitting up the regular maid/matron duties so that neither one feels slighted. Either way, the church isn’t preventing me from honoring both of them.

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