- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
BACKGROUND INFO: I’m a teacher. I’ve been at my current job for 2 years. We got a new teacher in February (the start of our school year) who has been REALLY struggling with just about everything- the country, the school, the students, curriculum, assessments, livng arrangements, personal life… you name it, it’s an issue. She’s scatter-brained, but seems nice, and being the new kid is NEVER fun, so we’ve all been sympathetic and helpful. She’s kind of a PITA and her attitude sucks at times, but we’re trying to be patient.
THE ISSUE: Yesterday she turned in some teaching documents (plans, exams, etc.) to our boss, and our boss returned them, saying that they we’re what she & the board were looking for for xyz reason, gave her an example or something more to their liking, and asked her to work with those guidelines in mind. Coworker then came to be, confused and complaining. I listened, sympathized, and told her that teaching here can be difficult and I don’t always love the way the ask us to do things. I also said that there’s not much she can do besides give her ideas but try work within the parameters we’re given, since that’s what we’re contracted to do. Then a kid ran up to us with some child-emergency (ie: HE’S LOOKING AT ME FUNNY!), the bell rang, and we went off to class.
This morning she came to me again, stating that she felt she was being asked to produce unreasonable results, that all the board wants is test scores, that the kids can’t do what these people expect, etc. I tried to help her out with some advice, then I showed her some examples of tests I’d given last year in the same subject (one grade level higher) so she’d have an idea of what they want the students to be able to do, how the exams should look, etc. We talked a bit more, then the bell rang, she thanked me and left.
In the afternoon, another coworker asked me “Did you and *coworker* have a heated conversation yesterday?” I said “No. When?” She proceded to tell me that *coworker* told our boss that we had a HEATED CONVERSATION in which I told her she had no right to complain about anything or try to change things, blah blah blah. NONE OF WHICH I SAID. Boss asked other coworker for a neutral opinion, to which she replied “I think *coworker* is dramatic and kinda crazy, and overreacted to Lana trying to give her sound advice.”
So… now I’m kinda pissed. This woman solicits MY advice, which I dispense kindly but honestly, and then she runs to our boss to badmouth me? Not cute. Then she comes to me the next day again for MORE help and advice? Weird.
So what do I do? Other coworker said we should just politely avoid this lady, because she’s kind of a nut and potentially a problem for our careers. I agree. So next time she asks me for help, do I act like I’m too busy? Do I tell her I don’t appreciate what she said about me and don’t want to jeapordize myself by helping her further, only to be badmouthed? Or should I “turn the other cheek” and keep helping her out, despite her potential to betray me. I doubt our boss takes her seriously, as she’s pretty fed up with her nonsense, and she generally loves me & my work, but still… I’d like to keep my name out of negative conversations.