Post # 1
I have a big dilemma right now.
I have 6 bridesmaids total. 3 out of town and 3 in town.
Recently 2 of my 3 in-town bridesmaids had to leave the country leaving me with only ONE bridesmaid to help. (out of ALL the 6 just ONE).
I am considering on reorganizing everything.
I have a lot more friends (not so close) that are willing to help.
The thing is that I don’t want to name “Bridesmaid” anybody that I don’t consider close friend, but I don’t either want to abuse of them letting them help and not giving them the name.
Do you guys have also hELPERS beside the bridesmaids?
Thanks for the advices and replies! 🙂
Post # 3
I do! They aren’t bummed to not be bridesmaids, they’re happy they’re close enough to get to help.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t call them helpers, but friends that were generous enough to help me out with projects, yes.
Post # 5
Of course… All my bridesmaids lived long distance, and I had a few cousins, aunts, friends here that were perfectly happy to come check out a venue with me or have a few drinks and assmble invites. And I flew in for my husband’s cousin’s wedding last year, and as soon as we got to the hotel we got a call from her mom saying they just needed some help with flowers (I DIY’d mine, and they thought they turned out great) and could I come over, and I of course went over no question and ended up doing all the boutonierres and the altar arrangement!
Just because somebody’s not a bridesmaid doesn’t mean they can’t just be a helpful person. I wouldn’t designate them a HELPER persay… but just someone who cares about you and wants to see you happy.
Post # 6
You could designate some “personal attendents” if you want and have them be helpers. Or you can ask for assistance her and there — they know they are bridesmaids, so if they are willing to help surely they are fine helping without that designation. Then perhaps if you give a speech that night you can just make sure to mention a few of them by name for their help.
Post # 7
Yep! Do not demote your bridesmaids because they moved. None of mine live in state, so I took another friend dress shopping for example. Your bridesmaids can still help with things from overseas (everything is online anyway), and they’re supposed to be bridesmaids not your personal assistants, so they shouldn’t be forced to do that much anyway. Just calm down and ask friends/family for help if you really need it.