(Closed) Helpers NO bridesmaids

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I do! They aren’t bummed to not be bridesmaids, they’re happy they’re close enough to get to help.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t call them helpers, but friends that were generous enough to help me out with projects, yes.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Of course… All my bridesmaids lived long distance, and I had a few cousins, aunts, friends here that were perfectly happy to come check out a venue with me or have a few drinks and assmble invites.  And I flew in for my husband’s cousin’s wedding last year, and as soon as we got to the hotel we got a call from her mom saying they just needed some help with flowers (I DIY’d mine, and they thought they turned out great) and could I come over, and I of course went over no question and ended up doing all the boutonierres and the altar arrangement!

Just because somebody’s not a bridesmaid doesn’t mean they can’t just be a helpful person.  I wouldn’t designate them a HELPER persay… but just someone who cares about you and wants to see you happy. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You could designate some “personal attendents” if you want and have them be helpers. Or you can ask for assistance her and there — they know they are bridesmaids, so if they are willing to help surely they are fine helping without that designation. Then perhaps if you give a speech that night you can just make sure to mention a few of them by name for their help.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yep! Do not demote your bridesmaids because they moved. None of mine live in state, so I took another friend dress shopping for example. Your bridesmaids can still help with things from overseas (everything is online anyway), and they’re supposed to be bridesmaids not your personal assistants, so they shouldn’t be forced to do that much anyway. Just calm down and ask friends/family for help if you really need it. 

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