(Closed) Help!!!How to get to know eachother??? He's a Sailor

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    All I know about sailors is what I learned when I waited tables near major docks.  Every single one of them hit on me.  Many propositioned me even after showing me pictures of their wives and children.  Some followed me around outside of my job because they were so persistent in trying to pick me up.  Personally, I would never trust a sailor as a result.  Sorry.

    On a final note, guys that become sailors usually do because they have the personality for it and that personality isn’t usually compatible with having a close romantic relationship with someone else.  They tend to be loners.

    Post # 18
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    Worker bee

    well I’m a sailor. can honestly say I’ve never tried picking up a waitress and Im a fairly romantic person with an out going personality   glad to see I’m deemed un trustworthy  based off my profession before ever knows me lol it’s okay I promise I’m not hating as a sailor I know ALL about the deadbeat sailors too. but I promise there are some really good ones out there. and yes my so (who is also a sailor) is a tad of an introvert. but he’s also one of the best guys I know (grant it I’m bias) we’re not all as creepy as the stereotype says we are 🙂

    Post # 20
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    Worker bee

    Oh boy he works in the gulf! Lol more into that in a moment!

     

    i started thinking more about what beach bride said (sorry idk how to tag) and I figured I should explain some more. Sailors sorta come in about three forms. There’s kinds like me and my so and most of my friends. If you met us you probably wouldn’t have a single clue this is what we do for a living only you see us around during the day a lot then were gone for a while lol. Callie’s mariner is a good blog to read. Her husband ships and its about the daily life of a single shipping mom. Then there’s the waitress picking up scum. Not that beach bride isn’t a lovely girl to try to pick up! But like she said they’d show photos of thier wife and kids and then go “wanna get a room” those guys totally not looking for a relationship. Sadly they are out there (I worked with a guy who had two cell phones… One for his wife the other for his gf… Never asked the details of that one! Personally sounds like a lot of friggin work!) then I guess there is the “socially awkward” kindS. for every sailor that believes its tradition to have a girl and every port. There is one who’s girlfriend took everything in their house and left when they were at sea.  Or who’s wife was caught sleeping with their best friend. Some of the things that have happened to my friends seriously make me hate being a girl. Girls can be bitches.  You also gotta realize we become awkward cause there isn’t always something holding us to land. We do the same thing every single day. It’s like being in a floating prison that pays well lol. Your told when to eat when to sleep and when to work. You loose track of days. It’s not like on land where you get up at 7 work by 9 home by 5 dinner by 7 bed by 11. Cause tue you went out to lunch with a friend on your break. And thrus you did happy hour with some friends from work. We don’t do that. So we do tend to loose some social interaction lol I have one friend who I tried to date he shipped but he was  “awkward” and like couldn’t figure it out. I knew he was a great person just watching him interact with his family. But the poor guy was so out of dating practice he couldn’t try to be romantic for the life of him! He’s now been dating this great girl for like 7 months sends flowers all the time and is like the most sickly sweet adoring bf out there! So yes some of them need some work lol but they got potential 

     

    now I wish I knew who he was! And if for certain he was leading you on. But here’s what I do know. I went to a maritime school which was 80% male… I’ve been in the industry for over 5 Years. Cause I went to school with sailors just bout all my friends are sailors. So I learn a lot about different parts of shipping

     

    quiet honestly odds are he’s NOT out of New Orleans. Now before you panic he’s in the area of that. Lol more than likely out of fourchon la (believe I spelt that right) cause lets face it we all know Nola has cell reception. However not sure if you’ve been to any of the maritime parts out side of there but they do not…  Most guys say they are out of Nola cause that’s where the office is but the boats get tied up outside of there plus who the hell knows where fourchon is? 

     

    If he’s out of there and texting everyday then either you two both have an iPhone (you can iMessage on wifi which would explain the texts and no calls) which could put him on a drill ship. Or he could be texting when the boat comes into port which means he’s more than likely on a supply ship or a crew ship (they go out to the rigs)  if the first the case then yes cell reception is like none existent in gulf and when you do pick it up its at a really high rate and I can’t blame the guy for not calling! If that ladder is the case then he’s not bs-ing over cell reception sucking. I’ve had it drop constantly trying to talk to my so. I’ve had it drop when I was trying to talk to friends down there. 

     

    I just reread your old posts. Personally I believe he’s honest on lack of cell. And even if he’s not its probably because he’s so busy when he gets into port reloading supplies that he feels its easier to say that then get your hopes up that he might have time to call. (I know sounds terrible. But I promise it’s not to be mean. When in port one is crazy busy and when and if you finally get a break sometimes you just want to sleep if you can. He’s more than likely working 6 and 6 which is one of the worse kind of shift work one can do for weeks at a time) when’s he due home again?  You always can just be blunt and ask him what’s up with you two. Hope all of this helps a bit!

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @seabyme:  The pickup lines were much worse than let’s get a room.  It was more like “can I walk on your carpet?” then wiggling eyebrows so I catch the double entendre.

    Post # 22
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    Worker bee

    lol I once had a guy at a bar say something like that to me once. Some guys are scum whether they’re sailors or not but as a sailor I do apologize for their statements 

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