(Closed) "Helping" him out…how much/how little?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How involved were you in helping SO choose your ring?

    We shopped for/designed the ring together; I knew exactly what the ring was going to look like.

    I gave him hints and information, but didn't choose the exact ring.

    I let him have full reign and was totally surprised.

  • Post # 46
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    Blushing bee

    We knew we’d be getting engaged soon, so we went to several jewelers to look at rings and see what we liked. I pretty much had a “dream ring” in mind & once he saw how specific that idea was, he just wanted me to get exactly what I wanted. So we got engaged without a ring (he did that so I’d be surprised about the engagement), & then ordered the ring together. We’re both very proud of it because he had input & I got what I really wanted & it was all still very romantic & fun. ❤

    Post # 47
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    Worker bee

    I’m a waiting bee too- but my bf and I always openly talked about rings- my Pinterest/Instagram screen captures were a collection of so many different styles round, oval, cushion, halo and double halo. From pictures I thought I was going to end up with a double halo… 

    On Valentine’s Day the bf told me to clear my Saturday schedule as we were going ring shopping… I was on cloud nine. So we spent a full day looking at rings. We set a budget, and I knew I wanted to focus on carat size… I knew a good amount about rings bc I shopped for my best friends ring with her now husband – but my bf only knew what he read online. Come to find out he doesn’t like warm diamonds. Together we picked a slightly over budget 1.75 E SI oval diamond with a simple pave band (so different than my double halo dream rings) but I instantly knew cushions and rounds weren’t for me when I tried them on. I’m so happy he took me on the journey to find the ring, he said he couldn’t pick it without my approval lol

    i seriously can’t wait to be able to wear it 

    Post # 48
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee

    We each picked our own out entirely separately – my ring, my decision. She just wanted me to be happy, and that’s what I told her about hers, too. We designed our matching bands together, though 🙂 

    Post # 49
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I didn’t realise that a lot of couple still surprise their SO with the ring until the wedding except of course in the event of a surprise proposal. In my country couples goes ring hunting together as the ring is one of the most pricey gifts given in the wedding, so it is only right and practical that both parties given out their input. 

    Post # 50
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    283 posts
    Helper bee

    We went ring shopping together and talked about what we liked. I asked if he just wanted a basic list of rings I liked and he could choose, but he said since I already knew I should get exactly what I want. We already had a diamond from my family (which meant I knew it was coming!) and just wanted to look at settings. He really liked solitaires, and I wanted him to love the ring he gave me so we focused on solitaires with a little something extra. When it became clear that we would need to do something custom, I was involved in the design process as well. He hasn’t proposed yet, but he did let me see it just to confirm that it was right. It’s perfect and I’m so excited to wear it!

    Post # 52
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    If I had left it up to my fiance, he would have gotten me a yellow gold pave halo round diamond. He kept trying to talk me into more bling. It’s not my style at all. I have a princess cut white gold solitare. Ultimately, he let me choose because it’s my ring and I have to wear it.

    Post # 53
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    241 posts
    Helper bee

    My fiance designed my ring. I told him I wanted simple and bold and a solitaire champagne diamond. We did go and pick the stone together though. After that done, I felt that I wanted to be surprised and he knew my taste so I trusted him totally. He included white gold which he likes and yellow gold which I like. I adore my ring and couldn’t believe how perfectly it suited me.

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