(Closed) Helping Kingy make friends in Chicago… SUGGESTIONS?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Also, do you guys go to church? I live in the suburbs and we have Willow Creek Community Church out here (I know there is one in Chicago too) and that is where I have made most of my friends here, which has kept me sane the 1 1/2 years I have lived here.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@kingytobe:  I have relocated a lot!  First of all, it sounds like you are supportive and understanding- and that is really important.  Because HE is knew, and you grew up there- that can be REALLY hard.

What are his interests?  The best way I have ever found to meet people and make friends (besides getting lucky with a neighbor or co-worker) is to take a class.  Have him take a class in something he loves or has always wanted to learn.  Or even a hobby.  That way you are more likely to find people… well… like you.  It also takes TIME (to become friends/ meet them/ make them).  But taking a class by himself will feel okay because propbably everyone is there by themselves, and you meet people that are interesting in meeting new people and expanding their horizons. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re in a NW suburb and there is a sweet Meetup group for 20’s-30’s people in the area. Definitely look at meetup.com because it has a lot of different groups throughout Chicago for various things.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Let him know I am in the same situation and it SUCKS! We just moved to DH’s hometown, in the middle of the woods. He knows everybody, we hang out with his friends (who are fun but it’s his friends, not mine) and I feel completely isolated. We are moving to a slightly bigger town tomorrow but I have no idea how to make new friends. It’s all clicks that have known each other since kindergarten… Let him know he is not alone!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My biggest recommendation is to join a sport through Chicago Sport and Social or Sports Monster.  They host leagues all year long and a great place to meet people who share the same interests as you.  Chicago Sport and Social also hosts a lot of different events i.e. Cubs game, skiing in WI, etc. that you can attend and meet like minded people.  Whatever his interests are just push him in that direction and he will find people he gets along with.  And tell him don’t be shy to talk to others guys and ask them to hit the gym or get a beer.  Chicago is a very friendly place! 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was thinking – maybe try to make new friends too/ with him by taking classes, maybe stretching past your own group or comfort level.  Maybe take a class together to work on meeting couples or people you both are into. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m guessing as an Aussie he either played or was into Rugby?  Maybe you could seek out a league in Chicago..it would probably be small, but i guarantee it will be full of ozzies, kiwis and english!  I am sure he will fell 100% more comfortable making friends with other expats first, and then widening his circle – i know that was the case for me when i moved to Australia – it was always a lot easier for me to start talking to north americans..and through them i’ve met aussies. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Also, check into the local bars and see if there is one geared towards Australians and their teams and sports. There are tons of bars in the city for Irish/English/German/Greek/Italian’s etc. I’m sure there would be an Australian bar somewhere. It just might make him feel less homesick. 🙂

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was thinking of your post when I saw this Chicago meetup: http://www.meetup.com/Newlyweds-in-the-City/ could work for you guys!

We’re going through the opposite – all my friends are pairing up the and single friends don’t want to come by for dinner or game night – they say it’s too “coupley”…

I agree with all the other suggestions – do something you enjoy and you’re bound to meet people with like interests. If kingy is into watching sports, try watching a football (soccer) game at Fado’s or up north at the Globe Pub. I think they also show Rugby or Cricket if there are big matches on.

Best of luck!

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