(Closed) helping save for my own ring..lame?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I completely agree with you. I’ve offered my SO money plenty of times since I have saved up quite a bit more than him but he always refuses since he believes that “the man should pay for the ring.” he’s too traditional for his own good lol

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Not lame at all. I contributed a diamond that i already owned to my engagement ring (family heirloom). Fiance ended up paying to have it set, which ended up being around 1/8 of the ring’s total worth. I think the amount of money people expect men to spend on these rings is ridiculous. May I suggest looking into created diamonds (real diamonds, just lab-grown. sold by both blue nile and gemesis) if you want a more cost-effective diamond. I think what you’re doing is commendable.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Not lame, but I don’t know any guy that would be okay with that.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Not lame. I helped pay for my ring, sorta. We both got engagement rings, and split the total cost of both of them, but mine actually cost more.

Post # 7
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Wannabee

I would personally not be ok with saving for my own ring. I may look for a more cost effective one.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@gollymolly:  i 100% agree with you. i wouldent even want the ring anymore.

in my opinion which doesent mean much but i dont feel any woman should chip in on her engagememt ring. the man should buy that all on his own.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had to pay for some of mine and I thought it was pretty lame honestly… 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@bbsoon2be:  Because her title is different, if you look at the url bar it is own-ringlame so slightly different.

 

And I paid for half my ring, I would appreciate if everyone didn’t keep saying it’s lame.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrs.SleepyKitty:  if you go to my original thread people are much more supportive. i certainly don’t think it’s lame. if i had income (im a SAHM) i would definitely be contributing to my ring.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

double post

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I gave my SO money to help pay, I dont think that it is lame at all. Now I’ve just got to wait for it Frown

The way I look at it is It helped get the ring sooner than if he was just paying for it which means a proposal will come sooner Laughing

I think I will appreciate my ring more knowing that I helped pay for it.

@Mrs.SleepyKitty:  It’s such a downer when friends make snarky remarks about helping to pay for your own ring like what kind of a man cant pay for the ring himself etc.

You help pay for the wedding so why cant you help pay for the ring? Just my thoughs anyway.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would NOT have been ok with that. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i wouldn’t be ok with him asking me to do so, but if i wanted to put more into it to get a bigger/nicer stone then that would be my choice and i would be ok with it.

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