Post # 1
I’m having a recessionista-chic wedding next month (I’m paying for almost every last thing from programs to honeymoon myself and I am far from wealthy). My parents are deceased, my fiance has had financial problems and if it wasn’t for my saving for years, we wouldn’t be able to have a wedding at all. I’ve been proud of my cute-but-cheap planning so far (I’m under budget!) but I’m starting to get a little worried. My brother was married earlier this year and had a modest but fairly pricey reception and my cousin is getting married the month after us and is having the whole enchilada: fancy reception hall, bar, photo booth, etc. Most of my family will be/have been at both of the other weddings and I’m afraid ours is going to look completely amateur and backward. I know the important thing is to get married but I have waited FOREVER for this day and I don’t want it to come off as crappy. Someone please give me a little consolation!
Post # 3
@ARRhodes: I know it’s hard but remember it’s all about you and your fiance. Getting married doesn’t need to be an over the top event to impress everyone. Instead, I’m sure you’ll family and friends will see how happy and in love you both are and how overjoyed you are to be able to have a party to celebrate with them. I’m sure no one will even compare the two weddings as I’m guessing your cousin is in a different place then you (family, finances, etc…). Just remember to focus on all the love, your’s and your new husbands, you families who are surrounding you and all your friends and don’t worry about anything but enjoying yourself and the BEAUTIFUL wedding you were able to put together.
Post # 4
The nicest weddings I have ever been to have ALL been low budget. It will be great but I can’t help myself I want to hear all the details LOL
Post # 5
The best weddings for me are casual, fun affairs and budget has never determined that. And honestly? The best part for me are the vows and the love between the couple.
ETA: You should be extremely proud of yourself for having paid for it yourself.
Post # 6
Budget does not dictate a good wedding. As long as you marry your love and your guests have a good time, im sure your wedding will be amazing. The best weddings reflect the bride and groom, so focus on that rather than your budget.
Post # 7
I’ve been proud of my cute-but-cheap planning so far (I’m under budget!) I think that is awesome!! That is how you should keep seeing it because you are doing the best you can.
I know how you feel about compairing your wedding to other ones because I have been to some over-the-top weddings and I know I won’t be able to do what they did!
I think people will be able to see the difference in the weddings money wise, but I think as long as everything goes smoothly and you are happy on that day, that is ALL that matters. I have also been to a wedding with folding chairs/tables in a rented fire hall and I had just as nice of a time because they didn’t focus on the material crap, but just the love they were celebrating. Cheer up!!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I appreciate the encouragement! 🙂
Post # 9
I think that the most important thing about a wedding isn’t about the kind of chairs you sat on or the centerpieces on the tables or whether there was a photobooth. The most important thing is that you and your wonderful Fiance are getting married and also that the guests have fun! Fun means different things to different people.
I can understand the sentiment that you compare your wedding to others, but remember that it’s not a competition to see who spent the most money! More money wedding doesn’t necessarily mean happier marriages 🙂 My Future Sister-In-Law is also getting married the same year as me, and at first all I could think about was making sure that there was nothing in common with our wedding styles. But now, I don’t think it matters too much, and I was totally focusing on the wrong thing.
Don’t feel bad! Be happy that you are marrying the love of your life and if you are having a good time, I’m sure your guests will too.
Post # 10
I know JUST how you feel! My wedding will be beautiful but no big affair. My parents and his are paying so it’s not like we have to do much but I refuse to have my parents go broke over a wedding! We are doing fake flowers on the centerpieces instead of real, we shopped around forever to find an affordable venue and caterer. Instead of having a cake made, my good friend is making us one for a wedding gift. His cousin plays in a wedding band and is playing at our wedding for basically free (discounted to all of the other members) for our wedding present. We aren’t doing anything crazy, just simple and nice. I just want my family and friends to have FUN. If the music is good and the mood is right, decorations don’t even matter! Keep your head up and don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. This is YOUR day and that’s all that matters!
Best of luck!
Post # 11
I think your family, if they truly know your situation, will appreciate all you put into your day and they won’t compare the three weddings. And you know what? If someone says something or acts like yours is not as good as the others, YOU know inside that YOU did all this work, stayed within your financial means, and that is something great to be proud of. People go to tons of weddings with the whole ‘enchilada’. Yours will be a little different, and there is nothing wrong with that.
Post # 12
Just thought you should know that I have been using the term “recessionista-chic” ever since I saw this thread! LOVE IT 🙂
And a side note, I agree that some of the best weddings I have ever been to were low-budget. I actually went to a wedding this past weekend that was held in the exact venue of another wedding I went to a few years back. This most recent one was SO MUCH MORE FUN and much more stunning. I also happen to know they spent waaaay less money on it.
my point is that money does not dictate a great wedding. I think how much heart you put into your planning, and into each other, is what people see on that day, and that is what makes them memorable 🙂
Post # 13
@ARRhodes: Dont worry about it… Focus in on marry your Fiance and nothing else