- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I just wanted to post on here to see if im going crazy or if my mum has a point…
I am getting married on 1st May 2012, Mum loves the guy im marrying and was happy when we got engaged.
My InLaws have insisted pay for the majority of the wedding, something I am very grateful for as neither My mum nor my partner and I have enough money to do so.
My Mum however seems to be angry at My InLaws for offering to pay. I understand that she feels bad as she is unable to pay but I can not change the situation.
I have tried to involved her as much as possible, I have invited her to meetings with photographers, caterers, wedding dresses etc etc. WE changed our menu ideas because she didnt like them and i have even ran the invite designs past her at every step.
Today we went to hire the suits, Mum had previously said she wanted to pay for her partner so she paid for his and we paid for the others (with the inlaws money).
This evening though she text me saying she feels upset that she cant pay and pushed out with all the decisions. She says I should think about other peoples feelings, but it feels as though thats all ive been doing. She said she doesnt want to hear anything about the wedding as it is too upsetting for her.
I dont really understand what I can do to change the situation and am upset that she doesnt want to be involved with the planning of the most important day of my life.
Mum has depression so it could be linked to that or maybe im just not seeing it from her point of veiw.
What do you ladies think? Have you had any similar problems?
Please give your opinion as someone that isnt involved. Thanks!