(Closed) HELP…Nervous future Fiance!

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think if you’re both really close to your  parents and are comfortable with each other’s sets of parents then it would be cool to include them.  A big part of marriage is blending of families so it makes sense to have them there.  That being said, my husband and I did not have our families there when it happened for us.  Which was fine.  We both love our sets of parents but aren’t super close with the other set so it would have been strange for us to have them there.  Both sets of parents knew it was happening that day though, so they were included to an extent.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@ltdave:  Honestly I would ask her…. on the sly. I am close to mine but he knew I didn’t want anyone else there. I wanted a moment for just me and him.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I’d ask her, as previously suggested.

We get along with our sets of parents, and they get along with each other. But I wanted it to be just between us, and that’s how he did it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It depends on the kind of girl she is. I’m SUPER close with my family but displaying any sort of emotion around them (super happy, super bummed, kinda happy, kinda bummed) is really uncomfortable for me. I wouldn’t have been able to enjoy my proposal if my mother was there. So just make sure she’s not only close, but comfortable with heightened emotion around her parents. If she is, I think it’s  a great idea. I also really recommend having one of the parent photograph the moment, or someone else. You’ll both want pictures one day. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

By The Way…is this a private tour? Just curious ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@ltdave:  I think it’d be pretty cool to do it at the White House. It’s pretty unique.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the PP that it is a very personal moment, so I’d just make it just between the two of you as much as you can. I love the Rose Garden idea, however if it’s not a private tour maybe try to clue in the tour guide so you can pull her aside while you are in the garden and not proposing in front of a bunch of strangers.

As for the parents, I wouldn’t invite them even though you all are super close. Maybe you can arrange a dinner that night to celebrate, and you can surprise her when you show up to the table and the parents are already there. Remember, your parents will obviously be there when you actually get married, so there will be more opportunities to share your joy with your parents…but I’d say keep the proposal just between you two. 

Congrats, by the way ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would not have minded my family being present for my proposal but I’m glad that we were Aline. All the emotions that I felt were exciting overwhelming and I’m glad I got to experience that without an audience.

What about arranging for your parents to be waiting after you propose? Have your friend bring them into the garden afterwards? Or meet them for a celebratory dinner?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Personally, I think it would a little suspicious to have both sets of parents join you on a tour of the Whitehouse. She might feel that something is up and it might be a little awkward for her, even if she is close to her family. What I would do, is go on the tour together, propose, and then surprise her with a fancy lunch or dinner where both sets of parents are waiting to meet you! That way you have the private, personal proposal but the ability to share the good news in person afterwards. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Arggh double post! Sorry!

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