(Closed) Help…SO doesn’t know any wedding etiquette??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was looking for something online for you and I found this here.  At least it addresses the photographer issue and maybe there’s some other stuff on that site that would help!

10 ways that your photos might suck: (And how to avoid these mistakes.)

3. Will suck if you: Use your buddy.

If he happens to have actual wedding photography experience? Fine. Use him. Otherwise, there’s a 99% chance that he will be inadequate. The downside isn’t just mediocre photos—who cares, right?—but awkwardness at the party. There’s a fine art to crowd control, arranging group photos, and knowing the key permutations. A good wedding photographer is good with a crowd, tactful, flattering.

Then again, to play devil’s advocate…IF your buddy’s charismatic and IF your fiancée isn’t that stressed about the photos and IF he can actually snap a good shot…there are worse places to cut corners.

One last compromise: you can have a pro do the ceremony, some formal portraits, and a few key shots that will serve as your “framers”…and then leave the reception to amateurs.

Post # 4
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wouldn’t it be awesome if they had a “Grooms for Dummies” book?!?

Seriously though, most men don’t really have a clue about weddings. You are not alone 🙂

Post # 7
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To be honest, a lot of BRIDES don’t know much about weddings. I’d like to see a brides for dummies book too. There are a lot of things you learn along the way. You may just find yourself being the teacher here

Post # 8
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Actually I saw something like this!! No kidding. At Men’s Wearhouse, when we did our tuxedo selections, they had a book on the counter that was for grooms about weddings. I can’t remember the title, but maybe if you call a place like that they will have a suggestion. Or just start plugging key words into Amazon?

Post # 11
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m not a fan of most books for grooms because they just assume that the groom isn’t involved in the planning.  Maybe get a primer for the two of you to read together instead of something that just focuses on tuxes and the bachelor party?  That’s what we did and it was incredibly constructive.  My Fiance thought weddings were planned in 3 months MAX before!

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