I’m a health educator- I’m not saying that everything I’ll say is totally perfect, but I am pretty up-to-date.
Please don’t pull out.
First: It doesn’t work so hot with condoms. It can make them less effective.
Second: It’s a really crappy method no matter how you slice it. It’s basically just above nothing, and not way above.
Third: It’s not way above partly because IT SUCKS. Part of good birth control is that it doesn’t mess with your intimacy, and pulling out really, really messes with your intimacy. If you’ve waited until marriage to have sex, you deserve the best of sex. Pulling out? That is some of the worst of sex. That’s the good part, the best part, the BEST PART, OH I LOVE Y- oh naw let’s ruin this because oh no babies. That game is for people who aren’t all there for each other. You are. We have better things for you.
The pill by itself should be fine. I’ve done the pill for years with no problems. Best practice is take it (roughly) the same time every day- don’t miss, set an alarm on your phone, have them on you- and know that antibiotics mess with the effectiveness. Use condoms while you’re on antibiotics and for a few days after. Talk to your doctor, especially when they prescribe things for you. (You are doing that anyway, right? Who are you seeing for the pill? Did you ask about birth control, or just request the pill? Doctors and nurse practitioners are awesome!)
The pill + condoms is highly effective- but so is the pill on its own. If you and your fiance have had STD tests, or are both virgins and not showing any symptoms(see: websites below), you don’t need to use condoms. You only need to use them while the pill is taking effect, and you’re good, girl. Condoms are fine, but they also interfere with intimacy sometimes. (You did NOT hear me say that. They’ll take away my condom necklace.) I suggest experimenting with condoms, but not stressing over not using them.
There are more effective forms of birth control. (More effective because you can’t miss pills and you can’t forget to use condoms while you’re on antibiotics.) Me, I LOVE the shot. You get a shot every three months, no muss, no fuss. I had an adjustment period the first three or six months. Just get your shot regularly and you don’t even need to think about it. There are also IUDs, even if you haven’t had kids(they can be painful to put in, but there are pain relievers for that, and they are incredibly effective for eight to ten years and you don’t have to schedule anything. Just make a mental note of the right birthday.)
These are just a few of the amazing options out there. Please go talk to your doctor, you can ask them literally anything(ANYTHING!), or feel free to PM me. Also, feel free to check out some websites:
http://www.scarleteen.com/ (Aimed at teens, but they have totally solid information from a lot of angles, not just focused on mechanics and preventing behbehs.)
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-info/birth-control (Always reliable.)
http://www.avert.org/how-to-have-sex.htm (AVERT is one of the groups my clinic works with.)
Congratulations! You’re on the home stretch of saving yourself! Don’t worry about anything- I know this is a whole new world, no matter how much you’ve read. I’ve been sluttin’ it up for ten years, and I read EVERYTHING before that and I’m still learning about sex, AND about my body. Just remember: Don’t listen to Cosmo EVER, your friends give shitty sex advice, and doctors and nurses have already heard it all- nothing will surprise them, and they want you to ask them anything you don’t know. You’re gonna do great- and you’ll have kids when you’re ready. <3