- 7 years ago
Okay so a friend of mine got engaged last feb and is getting married in March this year. I was so excited for her because she has wanted to get married for so long. Alot of her close GFs live far away and so I got to go and do a load of intial wedidng shows with her. The came her engagement party and after that she seemed to become really cold with me. I have heard through mutual friends that she thought I was trying to bag a spot as a bridesmaid which I wasn’t. Whilst we are close we are not that close and I wouldnt consider her for one on my bridesmaids so wouldn’t have expected her to do the same for me.
Anyway back in June one of her Bridesmaids emailed round a load of us girlies giving us the date and a rough outline of what they were thinking of doing for the hen. It sounded fab and I was really looking forward to it. I put the date in my diary to make sure I kept it free. Then October came along and the invites got sent out, I got texts and calls from 2 of our mutual Gfs asking if I was going as it was turning out to be really expensive. It appears that in between June and October I had been taken off the invite list as I never got an invitation. This now put our 2 mutual friends in a really awkward position as they didnt know what to say to her. I was kind of hurt btu at the same time of the thought process that if she doesnt feel like our friendship is at that sort of place then thats fine, after all its her hen do.
One of our mutual friends is however, one of my best friends and ir has caused alot of upset. That plus how expensive it was meant that in the end she decided she didnt want to go. A couple of others pulled out because of the cost and so it was cancelled and new plans made. Now it appears that my best friend has been uninvited even tho the plans have changed and it is now cheaper. I feel bad for her and whilst I just accepted it she seems to be making a big deal out of it. The hen do is mentioned everytime we talk and it is making me feel uncomfortable.
A couple of weekends ago I went for Coffee with the bride to be and a discussion about her hendo came up, I didnt mention me being left out or our mutual friend being univited but i did find out about what they are doing. I now feel really awkward talking to my best friend as I haven’t told her the new plans but I know she is going to mention it but I am fed up with the bitchiness and bickering.
What should I do. The wedding is in March and if I have to put up with bad feeling until then I think I am goign to scream!