(Closed) Hen’s Night / Bachelorette Party Worries and Stress!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

no not at all. I feel the same way about my bachelorette party. I voiced my concerns directly with everyone and everything has seemed to work out fine. I think you should just put it all out there and hopefully they will respect your wishes.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

You should absolutely voice your concerns to your bridesmaids. You don’t have to do it in a way that throws your concerned sister under the bus for telling you, but you should definitely have the conversation. The next time you have the majority of the ladies in a room, you could make it sound like you “heard a story” or “saw it on TV” and outline all the things you don’t want. That way, you are putting it out there that you aren’t comfortable with that stuff and you don’t have to feel like you are shooting anyone down. Then again…I’m non-confrontational and you could always go the traditional route and just tell them you heard what *might* be happening and it’s not what you are looking for!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Definitely say something. Subtly drop hints even, mentioning what your idea of hell would be. It sounds like this is her idea of fun and that’s why it’s happening! 3 strippers……oh my God!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you’re being selfish – you’re the bride.  It sounds as though she’s being the selfish one by planning a bachelorette party that she’s going to enjoy much more than you will.  She should be planning around your likes/dislikes, not her own.  I think you should speak with her, or have someone else speak with her, to make your wishes known beforehand.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Speak up, and soon! It’s YOUR bachelorette party, not hers, and if this is not your idea of fun then it’s definitely not fair for them to be planning it that way. it’s not selfish to not want a bunch of strippers and to get wasted at your own party! She can have this type of bach party when its her turn.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with the others that say you should voice your concerns to your BMs. It’s your bachelorette party and you should get to do what is fun and enjoyable for you.

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