(Closed) Her Ring…

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would it bother you that the diamond was from an old setting?
    Yes, absolutely I need it brand new : (15 votes)
    17 %
    No, its in a new setting, diamonds aren't brand new anyway : (60 votes)
    70 %
    Maybe- other factors may need considering : (10 votes)
    12 %
    Other (I'll explain below) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s very mature of you to think this way.  If it doesn’t bother you, then it shouldn’t bother anyone else.  Nobody else would even need to know.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have my previous engagement ring… I asked my Fiance if we should use the diamonds from it to save money and he refused to even use the money we could get from selling it to put towards a new ring… I don’t know why I think it’s fine as long as it’s not the same ring going from 1 persons hand to the next lol.

    Well now he owes $4000 to a jewelry store so it’s his loss… I say go for it use the diamond and create your dream setting =)

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Do you know where he got the ring from? A co-worker was engaged before and they took her ring back to the same jeweler, he allowed them to “trade-up” to a different ring altogether.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think that’s a brilliant idea, and I wouldn’t have a problem with it either. Especially if that means you can have your dream ring.  In the end, you’re going to spend that money somewhere—whether it’s on your e-ring, or your wedding band, or the wedding, or the honeymoon, or a house…

    BTW–we bought my diamond used, and we paid the seller FAR less than what it was worth (he gave us the receipt where he paid $6300 and we paid $1900). He just couldn’t unload it, and it’s over a full carat, colorless, and no inclusions, and certified. So….yeah…I definitely think your potential SO would have to take a loss on it if he sold it….

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    You could take it to Jareds, Kay, or JB Robinson. All of those stores accept “foreign” trade-ins; meaning they’ll take rings from other stores. The downside is you have to get a ring double the value of the ring you’re trading in.  If you get one less than double the value, they’ll only take half off the new ring. I’m suggesting this as an option in case he really wants to get you a new ring. 

    If you do go that route, make sure you don’t pay full price for whatever ring you buy. Except for the exception of a few items, the sales people can almost always take an additional 20% off jewelry–50% off gold chains…  

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree with the other posters, use it if you want to! If it doesn’t bother you then it shouldn’t matter. Plus, you’ll get a new setting which will make it your own 🙂

    Post # 8
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    4109 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @milesbella: This.

    I think it’s the smartest thing to do, unless HE has a problem with it. In that case, you don’t want that much stigma surrounding what’s on your finger- buy a new one & pass that ring down to your children one day.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If it doesn’t bother either of you then go for it! I personally would want a completely different ring, but that’s just me. Go for it! 

    Post # 11
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If you have the finances to get another ring, then I would do that.  I would NOT be okay if I knew it was someone elses before, regardless.  I would always have the thought in the back of my mind and it would drive me nuts.  

     

    You could buy a new ring and use the diamond to make a pendant for yourself or like PP said pass it down to your children one day, theyll never know the story unless you tell them.

     

    I would get a new ring if you can financially do it.  Or tell your SO to do what he wants and what you don’t know won’t hurt, if we goes the route of using it.  

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think that’s great if you can look past it and reuse the stone.  Did she pick it out, or did he?  My SO was engaged before too, but she wouldn’t give the ring back.  I’ve thought about it though and I’d probably be ok using the same center stone, as long as it’s in a new setting, it’s the practical thing to do.  But I know my SO would never have wanted any part of her ring on me, it might be best to start fresh if it bothers him, even if he does have to spend twice the amount, it might be worth it?

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Go for it! Do what makes you happy and used the saved cash on something great for a wonderful wedding for the two of you!

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I didn’t really know how to vote because while I personally would not be okay with it, I think we all have varying levels of how much sentimentality we attach to things, and mine is on the higher end. So while I can’t imagine reusing the ex’s stone, that doesn’t mean I think you shouldn’t.

    But do you really actually love the stone though? If it’s not even your style (shape or whatever other specs you would have wanted), and you’re just telling him to reuse it solely for the sake of saving money, I worry you might regret your choice. You want to love your ring for a lifetime. Maybe keep that in mind when you decide.

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