(Closed) Her Ring's Not Real and She Doesn't Know – HELP!

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

He needs to tell her.  Not you.  

Post # 4
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@emilygrace07:  Seconded.

Hearing it from you won’t do her any good. This is something that they need to handle.

Post # 5
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Leave it up to him. I think if she wants to marry him the rock shouldn’t matter, however he should have told her. 

Post # 6
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Are you sure that he didn’t tell her and she’s just trying to pass it off as a diamond to everyone else?

Regardless, I don’t think you should say anything to her, but you should encourage him to tell her himself if he hasn’t already.

Post # 8
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would tell him that he needs to tell her in the next few days. I don’t think, however, it’s your place to do so unless he flat out refuses. Honestly, he needs to man up and open the lines of communication. It will be good practice for marriage when uncomfortable topics come up. If he doesn’t tell her, then I would probably go ahead and break the news myself after a few weeks of badgering him to. I think she deserves to know that she’s being lied to if it goes on much longer.

Post # 9
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yea i agree its gotta come from him he cant scurt around the issue by having u be the bearer of bad news cause its only gonna make you AND him look even worse 

Post # 10
8735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Stay out of it. This is between them.


Also, her ring is real. It’s a real sapphire.

Post # 11
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Back away slowly then RUN.

Post # 12
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He needs to do it but maybe you can be close by somehow – she’ll have all sorts of feelings having told someone it is a Diamond. I think I would feel more hurt that I had inadvertently lied to people and would be embarassed and she may need your help with that part.

Post # 13
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

he should have told her, and he should tell her not you

Post # 14
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If he doesn’t have the…inner strength… to tell her himself, he’s not ready to get married to her and spend his life with her.

He needs to tell her before she keeps calling it a diamond.  It’s his place to tell her, not yours. 

Post # 16
3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

It sounds like he wants you to do the dirty work so that if she gets mad, it will be at you instead of him. I think you should encourage him to tell her. Nothing wrong with a non-diamond e-ring, but there IS something wrong with letting her assume it’s something it’s not.

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