(Closed) Her Ring's Not Real and She Doesn't Know – HELP!

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 19
3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Is she really materialistic enough to care that much that’s it’s the 2nd most expensive stone in the world instead of the most expensive??? 

A sapphire is still a beautiful quality stone.  I would just tell her as an “oh by the way…” She loves the ring, she loves her fiance.  It’s not like it’s a cheap CZ ring or something.  

One of you should just tell her, the longer you wait the more awkward it’ll be for all parties involved. 

Post # 20
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@KatNYC2011:  I agree its REAL!!!

Post # 21
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Edit: Sorry –  I fail at reading comprehension. I’d let him know your concerns, then stay out of it. He needs to put on his big boy pants and tell her himself!

Post # 22
15453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If he knows he should tell her, dont give him an easy pass out.  he should have told her immediately before she got the chance to fly with the idea it was a diamond and tell people that! 


Post # 23
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The point is not whether the sapphire is real or not.  He is still lying, and that is your sister!!!  I’m not saying you should tell her, but you should give him an ultimatum in order to force him to tell her.  She deserves to know, and I’m sure it won’t make a difference either way if she loves him. 

Post # 24
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t care if my stone was a white sapphire, but I would care if my Fiance tried to pass it off as a diamond, or let me assume it was and didn’t correct me.  Why would he hide that?  Why would he feel like he needed to hide it?  Am I the problem, or is he insecure because of other things?  How can we get married if he’s not honest enough about something so stupid and insignificant?  Etc.

Post # 25
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

1. I agree that it is real. 

2. when they get the appraisal for insurance purposes,  what the center stone will have to come out. 

3. eee don’t tell her. Maybe if you wanted to soften the blow you could causually mention your (imaginary) friend who got a really pretty saphire or ruby and how unique and awesome it was?

Post # 26
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

He should have told her a looooong time ago! Like in the first 30 seconds after she saw it. This is none of your business, make him tell her. And soon.

Post # 28
3574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Nona99:  “would you get pissed if it was sapphire and not a diamond?”  No, but I would be mad that my fiance allowed me to look like an idiot becasue I wasn’t informed, the poor girl.  Some peeps might be able to tell and she will be livid.  And he needs to do it super fast…if he waits any longer it’s going to blow up to something it doesn’t need to be.  All he needs to say is ‘well, do you think it’s beautiful? Okay, I have something that I need to tell you and I’m not sure how you’ll react.  Remember that you think it’s beautiful…’

Post # 29
6253 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would say this would be a way bigger issue if it was CZ, but sapphire IS real. That said, it’s his place to tell her, not yours. He needs to, if nothing else because if she loses it someday and reports a lost diamond, she might be accused of insurance fraud.

I would pressure him to tell her, and if he doesn’t,let it go. She will find out eventually. If she ever confronts you, you can either tell the truth, or you can tell her that you thought that she had known the whole time. Besides, no matter how good the cut, sapphire doesn’t behave like diamond in every situation, and there are savvy people who will probably be able to tell the difference, and it might lead to embarrassing times for her.Better she find out now so that she can love and own it for what it is.

Post # 31
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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@KatNYC2011:  From my brain to your mouth (fingers?).

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