Wow. I have to say that, once again, I’m an SHOCKED and APPALLED by the lack of understanding of so many Bees. Holy hell ladies, the OP is 6 months pregnant and would have to drive 12 hours, by herself, within 24 a hour time period. You really think she should have to suck it up and go? How many of you have done long trips like that back-to-back? Have you ever made a trip like that when you’re already exhuasted? It’s not safe at all!!! I’d worry about falling asleep at the wheel personally.
Yes, it’s rude that she RSVP’ed yes and then not come. But guess, what, sh*t happens. When you plan a big event, such as a wedding, you need to be prepared for people to not be able to make it. It’s just how life works. A wedding is important but it’s not the ZOMG MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE WORLD AND YOU ARE A TERRIBLE HUMAN BEING IF YOU MISS IT! She honestly thought she could be able to do it and is now realizing she can’t. Sure, she knew she was pregnant, but this is her first baby and she had NO idea how she would feel months later. As one PP said, everyone reacts different to pregnancies. So just because YOU could have made it, doesn’t mean the OP can.
Yes, she just had her wedding and maybe she had a lot of stress and maybe she didn’t. Shockingly, not all brides get super stressed around their weddings. And maybe she had lots of support from her other friends and family so it wasn’t so bad. Or maybe she did have tons of stress, so then what? Is the correct solution for a 6 month pregnant lady to add MORE stress to herself? For those of you who say a 6 hour car ride isn’t stressfull, have you um, made many of these drives? Sometimes these drives are easy peasy, and sometimes you hit traffic or bad weather and your “easy” 6 hour drive becomes a 9 hour nightmare. And FYI, depending on where you are driving AAA, or any other sort of road side assistance isn’t easy to get. Sometimes you end up in a no-cell service area and you have to flag someone down or wait for HOURS for assistance.
To be fair, if the OP wasn’t so preggers, I would say she needs to suck it up and go. But as it were, she is and is probably far more exhausted than normal. She’s probably making more excuses because, if she’s like me, sometimes having one reason isn’t enough. You feel that that one reason isn’t good enough (even when it is). Sometimes, when I’m sick and want to stay home, I wrestle with the idea all morning to figure out if I’m really sick enough to warrant staying home or if I should just suck it up and go to work. So usually, I have to throw in other reasons, like I have laundry that needs to get done, or I have to travel or have a big presentation at work and need my strenght so I shouldn’t push it. I feel as though that’s what the OP is doing here.
If my friend called me up and told me she didn’t think she could make the drive, I would understand and wish her well. I wouldn’t end the friendship or be pissed or hold it against her.