(Closed) Here comes the bride…..:( too cheesy?

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had this talk with my mother, and she really wanted me to use it for my song. When I got together with my coordinator she found a beautiful version of it and I actually cried when I heard it.

(I don’t have who did or anything, but maybe just find a version you love, and then you will still get that dream, like I will for me and my mom)

🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i used an instrumental version… its not stupid!!! its very common actually! if you love it then use it!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Happy_Bee: It’s not unusual for Catholic churches to discourage use of that song, but not because it’s “cheesy” or “will make you look stupid”…basically, music used as part of a Mass should be sacred in nature, and “Here Comes the Bride” is actually from an opera.  And not a very pleasant part of the opera, either.  Hope you can figure out something you are happy with, though!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

@Happy_Bee: I think it’s a classic choice! Not cheesy at all. No respectable guests would make fun of a bride’s song choice, unless it’s something crazy like…death metal?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@heather5743: That’s the one I am using too! It is absolutely beautiful and I love it so much. I just listened to it again, and again started tearing up lol

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Miss. Snowball:  oh me too!  I listen to it ALL the time and envision myself walking into the church.  I just imagine it being so dramatic.  I can’t wait to use it for real!  I’m still trying to figure out what to do for our recessional.  This is the only song I know for sure that I’m using.  I just love it!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

When I got married, there were songs that my catholic church said were okay to play and not okay to play.  Could that be the reason why they did not like “Here comes the bride”?  Although, I don’t think it was really that nice of her to say that it was stupid.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@heather5743: We are still trying to pick our recessional music too! Why is that one so hard? lol We have tossed around the idea of doing the Stargate theme because no one will know what it’s from, it is very happy and triumphant and we LOVE that show 🙂 Plus our wedding cake topper is the Stargate, and I am now thinking of adding a grooms cake and making it myself and having it be the stargate.

Post # 12
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Wannabee

In My Humble Opinion, Traditional does not equal stupid. Just pick a well-produced instrumental version. By The Way, the original had no words. It was written by Mendelssohn in 1842 for Shakespeare’s “A Midsummer’s Night Dream.” 

Is it predictable? Yes, but there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, one of the nice things about weddings, I think, is that you get to see tradition mixed with each person’s interpretation of the wedding dream. Some people like more tradition and some less.

Play the wedding march YOU want. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Happy_Bee: Don’t let anyone, even a music director, tell you what you can and cannot have as *your* song. While I appreciate the music director’s suggestions, it is the music director’s job to ultimately do what she has been hired to do by you. So if you want Here Comes the Bride, then it is the music director’s job to do it. If she deems it cheesy, then it is her job to “uncheese” it with her magical musical touch. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Not stupid at all!  it’s traditional and classic.  We weren’t going to use it but Fiance told me that he’s always imaged his bride walking down the aisle to that song.  So we’re having it played on the guitar and violin and when I hear it now I get all emotion.  There’s a reason that song is popular and that’s because it works!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Cornflakegirl: I don’t mean to be argumentative, but, actually, yes, the music director CAN tell her no, if they deem it liturgically inappropriate.  I have seen many Catholic churches not allow use of this piece of music.  Here’s something I found on the Diocese of Albany’s website that pretty well summarizes it:

The so-called “traditional wedding marches” by Wagner and Mendelssohn are not recommended. Both are “theater” pieces which have nothing to do with the Sacred Liturgy. The “Bridal Chorus” from Wagner’s opera, Lohengrin, actually accompanies the couple to the bedroom, not the altar! Mendelssohn’s incidental music to Shakespeare’s Midsummer Night’s Dream accompanies a farcical wedding (the play is a comedy). Your parish music director will be able to suggest and demonstrate numerous other compositions from which to choose, thus adding to the dignity and uniqueness of your wedding liturgy.

http://www.rcda.org/offices/prayer_and_worship/guidelines_wedding_music.html

Now–it doesn’t sound like that is this particular director’s argument, but, not allowing it would not be inconsisent with many other Catholic churches’ decisions on this.

Like I said, I don’t want to be argumentative at all!  Not sure what perspective you’re coming from on this (religion, what type of wedding you’re planning, etc.), so my apologies if it seems like I’m talking down to you…just wanted to present what I’ve learned from my music ministry friends and found in my research.

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