Post # 1
Ok….the idea behind the title of this post is this:
- I am an American citizen Catholic
- Fiance is Danish citizen Catholic
- We live in Sweden
- We’re getting married in Italy
- Priest that is performing ceremony is coming from the US
I’m wondering if anyone has any helpful hints for paperwork, etc. Even if its just for one part of above. Especially the marrying in Italy part!! I feel like I’m working on this all alone. I had planned on hiring a coordinator to do all the paperwork but FI’s parents talked me out of it (FMIL is half-Italian, they own a house in Italy, and are both fluent in Italian…though neither have PLANNED a wedding in Italy!)
FI’s dad has a close friend that is the “scheduler” for the pope but he doesn’t have any indepth knowledge of how foreign Catholics get married in Italy.
Has anyone had any similar experiences?!?! Please help!!
Post # 3
WOW! That’s awesome.
Well, luckily, as long as neither of you belonged to a schismatic sect of Catholicism… we are a Universal church 🙂 I read years ago about getting married in Italy and it seemed a bit hard, as in lots of paperwork, but I’m sure for your situation it’s easy. There will still be a lot of paperwork though.
I think you need to start with your church in Italy. They will be the ones that need to get everything in order. They will tell you what they need from your priest and from each of you. I’m assuming it won’t be that far off from getting married here. Just more locations to pull the stuff from.
Post # 4
We got married in a church outside the diocese of our home parish. So I can talk about my experience first and maybe certain things can translate into your situation.
There are 3 parishes (each in different diocese) that I needed to contact (all about the same time, in no particular order).
1. the church I got baptized in
2. The church we’re getting married in
3. my home church (church I regularly go to nowadays).
I contacted church #1 to get a certified copy of my baptismal certificate (cannot be older than 6 mo). I contacted church #2 to book a date and go over their requirements since every diocese may be different. I contacted church #3 to schedule marriage prep (FOCUSS, scheduled “marriage for life” prep, and other regular paperwork)
After we met with the marriage prep parishioner, took the prep, took foccuss, submitted witness forms and baptismal certificates, Church #3 mailed all the paperwork (snailmail) to church #2 plus a dispensation from the parish priest, giving us permission to get married outside of our diocese. The lady who helped us with the paperwork commented that it’s such a feudal system that she needed to prepare separate paperwork for the dispensation but church #2 required it.
We also asked a priest outside of any of the 3 dioceses listed above to marry us. He had to ask his diocese’s tribunal to send some paperwork to the diocese’s tribunal of church #2. The paperwork certifies that he’s a real priest and that the tribunal grants him permission to perform the sacrament in the diocese of church #2. The priest knew that procedure so I didn’t really have to figure out the details other than reminding him to get his papers in order and calling church #2 to verify that the papers have arrived after the priest said that the requested materials should have arrived.
Honestly, although this sounds complicated, (it may be more complicated for your circumstances I’m sure), it wasn’t that bad. We started this process about 1 yr before the wedding date and everything got done on time. Don’t start the process late, since things still need to be snail mailed and you know how slow the feudal beauraucracy can be.