(Closed) Here we go again….Now its dress drama

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1934 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

There’s nothing wrong with having a girls day in NYC. I think it sounds like fun.  You need to stand up to your mother and do what YOU want to do.  She should be relatively understanding….especially if she isn’t the one driving into the city!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago

I don’t think there is anything more convenient about getting it in Atlanta versus up north.  The only thing that worries me in your post is that your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law may think you are 100% getting your dress at Kleinfeld’s.  It’s fun to go (I did with my bridesmaids) but don’t feel pressured to get something just because it’s ‘the store’.  If you love something, perfect!  But if you don’t, don’t force it- you could find your dream dress anywhere.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago

@jackndiane  Honestly, I think if they were set on going to Kleinfeld’s with you, they might be disappointed, but if they truly just want the experience with you, they should be open to a venue change.  Making the location more managable for everyone wouldn’t look bad, in my opinion.  If you still go to Kleinfeld’s, definitely tell them you KNOW the dress you like sells for less…maybe they’ll beat the price for you.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with @JBing:. They might be disappointed, but I’m sure they will forget all about it once you are trying dresses on.  It’s not the PLACE that makes it.  You guys will have a good time no matter where you go.  Change it if you don’t have your heart set on Kleinfelds.  You will definitely pay a premium for going there, and if you actually plan on purchasing the dress on that day, why pay more when you know it’s cheaper elsewhere?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You need to get the dress where you find “THE ONE”. Whether in ATL, Philly or NY. I already feel you need to be cautious with too many people involved and don’t want you having any dress regret or settling just cause you are in a certain spot! Ie..you get in NY but is it super important your mom approves. To me my moms satisfaction would prevail, not even cause she is paying, that is awesome, but just out of respect to us both.

I would go privately with your mom and see what happens. Then if nothing turns up, take the search to the in laws. But don’t aim to get it anywhere just cause of an experience. This already sounds like a lot of drama and no dresses have been tried yet. Do what makes you happy, whethere everyone ends up having a SYTTD time or not!.  

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ok I see. What I would do since you know the dresses, is send photos to everyone (ideally in the dress) and then decide with your mom in person with all of them. Your mom is the one who is paying so I feel she holds the highest card. My mom was like this a little too and felt my dress should be within our family not the inlaws and I think she wants to feel special like she approves but not having to fight over the other familys opinions. If NY is a stretch I would cut out the trip and just buy and decide locally with everyones opinions in consideration.  

Or the only other thing to do is just go do the dress trip with everyone. Would be great bonding time with you all.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@jackndiane: Excellent compromis and you will pay less in Sales Tax. Savings!A nd your right, too many cooks in the kitchen you know how the rest goes. Good luck and stick to your guns.

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