(Closed) Here’s a fun question…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Which would bother you more?
    Sleeping with an Ex : (34 votes)
    56 %
    Sleeping with a random : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Neither would bother me : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Both would bother me the same : (22 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
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    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think an ex would be a little more iffy, b/c I’d wonder about lingering feelings… if we’re not officially dating, I’d guess you’re free to explore your options.  But, in the end, if we were already talking and you went for someone else, I’d just assume you’re not that into me and move on.

    Post # 4
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Neither would bother me.  If we aren’t together currently (and it sounds like never officially have been), what say should I have in who he sleeps with?

    Post # 5
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    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    They would definitely both bother me but sleeping with an ex would bother me more because of that past attachment/feelings. I’d be worried that those feelings were still there and that he wouldn’t be able to move on.

     

    Post # 6
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    7291 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It depends probably on someone’s personal experience.

    I chose ” both would bother me the same “

    Time is also a huge factor, are we talking a week long break and he/she is already at it or like 6 months a year?

    Post # 7
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    1890 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If we weren’t officially dating, I’d probably be more troubled by him sleeping with a random.  What does that say about his character when he sleeps with random chicks?

    Post # 9
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    1405 posts
    Bumble bee

    Why should I be mad if I was just talking to someone?  Was I sleeping with them too?

    Post # 10
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    2190 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Both those options have their down sides.

    The ex: history is there and feelings that could be ignited again. On the other hand, they are an ex for a reason so there has to be something wrong with that relationship.

    The random: could be a new love interest, which would be bad because that new, oh my gosh, this person is amazing feeling, triumps any other fling you’ve had going on before. And it’s hard to see the negatives when that feeling is present.

    But, the random could just be a meaningless one night stand. And that’s not a big deal as long as these two people were never offically together.

    To answer the question, I said ex.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Both would bother me and I would move on.

    Post # 12
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    8 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve been in this exact situation before. I was seeing a guy pretty frequently, we had hooked up many times, then we got into a huge fight, didn’t talk for about a month and during this time I slept with someone else. A “random” as you called it. It meant nothing. Didn’t talk to him or see him ever again afterwards. During this month, the guy I had been talking to also slept with someone else except his was his ex-gf of 3 years (they had just broken up about 5 months earlier) and she was still in love with him. I felt so bad for the girl because she still had feelings for him and he just drug her along.

    Post # 13
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    both would bother me, i am a jealous beast.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Hard question. If we weren’t actually dating I would assume after hearing they slept with anyone that they weren’t really interested in me.

    In general I’m more disturbed by people who just sleep with random strangers though, so….yea, I’m probably not the kind of person this question is aimed at.

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