Post # 1
Tangent from another post:
Say you were talking to someone but weren’t officially dating, took a break from each other and during that time they slept with someone else, would you have a bigger problem with them sleeping with an ex or a random?
Post # 3
I think an ex would be a little more iffy, b/c I’d wonder about lingering feelings… if we’re not officially dating, I’d guess you’re free to explore your options. But, in the end, if we were already talking and you went for someone else, I’d just assume you’re not that into me and move on.
Post # 4
Neither would bother me. If we aren’t together currently (and it sounds like never officially have been), what say should I have in who he sleeps with?
Post # 5
They would definitely both bother me but sleeping with an ex would bother me more because of that past attachment/feelings. I’d be worried that those feelings were still there and that he wouldn’t be able to move on.
Post # 6
It depends probably on someone’s personal experience.
I chose ” both would bother me the same “
Time is also a huge factor, are we talking a week long break and he/she is already at it or like 6 months a year?
Post # 7
If we weren’t officially dating, I’d probably be more troubled by him sleeping with a random. What does that say about his character when he sleeps with random chicks?
Post # 8
Oh I’m not saying I would care like it would hurt my feelings or anything but like Running Elley:
said I would be more bothered by the ex simply because of the feelings that would go along with it. But hey some people may be able to have sex with an ex and not have feelings. I’ve never come across it but it could happen.
Post # 9
Why should I be mad if I was just talking to someone? Was I sleeping with them too?
Post # 10
Both those options have their down sides.
The ex: history is there and feelings that could be ignited again. On the other hand, they are an ex for a reason so there has to be something wrong with that relationship.
The random: could be a new love interest, which would be bad because that new, oh my gosh, this person is amazing feeling, triumps any other fling you’ve had going on before. And it’s hard to see the negatives when that feeling is present.
But, the random could just be a meaningless one night stand. And that’s not a big deal as long as these two people were never offically together.
To answer the question, I said ex.
Post # 11
Both would bother me and I would move on.
Post # 12
I’ve been in this exact situation before. I was seeing a guy pretty frequently, we had hooked up many times, then we got into a huge fight, didn’t talk for about a month and during this time I slept with someone else. A “random” as you called it. It meant nothing. Didn’t talk to him or see him ever again afterwards. During this month, the guy I had been talking to also slept with someone else except his was his ex-gf of 3 years (they had just broken up about 5 months earlier) and she was still in love with him. I felt so bad for the girl because she still had feelings for him and he just drug her along.
Post # 13
both would bother me, i am a jealous beast.
Post # 14
Hard question. If we weren’t actually dating I would assume after hearing they slept with anyone that they weren’t really interested in me.
In general I’m more disturbed by people who just sleep with random strangers though, so….yea, I’m probably not the kind of person this question is aimed at.