(Closed) Here’s a question for you!

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Huh. I was gonna give the normal answer "We love each other very much", but now I have to think. I’ll get back to you.

I’m sure our officiant will ask this during our counseling and I didn’t even think about it!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Hmmm…because I hate dating? LOL I don’t think that is a good answer either. I wanted to marry my husband because he’s my other half. He completes me{cheesy, I know!} and is a wonderful partner for all my plans in life. He’s an even better father then he is a husband and I knew he would be and that was very important to me as well. I wanted to be married in general because I enjoy the support and love that comes from finding your life partner.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think this is an answer you can copy from other people- I think you should be introspective on this one! What does your Fiance mean to you, and how is marriage going to foster your relationship in the future?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It seems like a very open-ended question and one that could be broken down into several parts. For instance, why do you like and love each other, why is marriage important to you — and so if this is the start of several sessions, it could be just to make you start thinking. He probably also wants to get you to be comfortable opening up to him and being straightforward and honest.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I am sure this is an answer that you are going to develop over the next couple of months. He probably wants to get you thinking about your relationship with your Fiance. It is easy to get wrapped up in the planning and forget about the reason you are going through the whole process.

We haven’t met with our priest yet, but I am anticipating some questions just like this.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

That’s a BIG question! A very important one though. I want to marry Mister Mary Jane because I know he’s the one for me. I want to take the next step above dating and living together. We know we’ll be together, so we want to make it official and truly become a family.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I guess, "The sex is really good!" wouldn’t be an appropriate response?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

My answer to that question is "Because I know he’s my family in my heart, and I want the world to know it, too"

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would probably give an unromantic and legalistic reason.  For us, getting married is really about putting a societal structure in place to provide support for our love and brand new family.  Formalization of that support gives it the weight it deserves and marks a milestone in our lives.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

Here’s what a pastor is getting at:

What makes marriage different from dating for the rest of your life?
What does marriage mean to the church?
What do your vows mean?
Who are you vowing to?

Why do I want to get married?

Because I want to be able to care for my Fiance, and there are legalities that require us to be married for me to do that.  Otherwise, I don’t see marriage as a necessity.  I don’t feel like marriage binds us, forces us to never make bad choices.  Marriage just allows me to see him in the hospital, and provides for him in case of my death (insurance).  I know that a ring doesn’t keep a cheater from cheating, and doesn’t mean there aren’t reasons why I would leave him.  So for me, marriage is merely a legality.  But I wouldn’t tell that to your pastor.  He’ll want to hear about a covenant with God and the Commandments and all sorts of religious stuff.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Good question!!!!!
I want to get married to my Fiance because he is my other half. He laughs at my dumb jokes and says goofy things to make me smile. He knows how I am (I can be VERY grumpy for no apparent reason) and still loves me! I can see myself getting old with him and adopting more animals with him and having a nice house in the middle of the woods with him. He’s my best friend and I’m a better person because of him. 🙂
Awww I feel all lovey-dovey now! haha

@rosychicklet: I think a Pastor would have a heart attack with that answer but it’s honest! LOL

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

He’s my best friend, my partner in crime, my supporter and I am those things for him. He’s the one that makes me laugh like no other. Can calm me down like no other. I am better because of him. He is going to be the best father to our future children. We share the same views on morality, religion, politics, and family. And I just want to be with him, always.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

This is a tough question when your minister calls you out on your "fluff" answer! 🙂 

Our minister asked us this question sseveral times as well.  What he was really getting at was, why do you want to get married, as opposed to just continue your dating relationship as it is now?   I think sometimes there is not a good answer to this question – because so much of it is emotional/feeling based.  It’s like asking someone why they want to have children….difficult to say exactly…

My minister liked my answer I think.  I said something like, because I want to make a bigger commitment to my husband than I was willing to make to other people that I just "dated". I want to make a life with him, along side him – not just lead two lives moving in the same, general direction.   In making that lifetime, all consuming commitment, we want the world to know about it both celebrate our choice and to hold us accountable for our commitment (thus, the big wedding).

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