(Closed) Here’s a really weird/creepy situation… WWYD?

posted 9 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What would you have done?
    Tell the store manager. : (47 votes)
    38 %
    Call 911. : (16 votes)
    13 %
    Find a phone book and call the police non-emergency number. : (24 votes)
    20 %
    Tell the "exposed" guy that he was "exposed." : (7 votes)
    6 %
    Tell other store shoppers to watch out for "exposed" guy. : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Other. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Drive away/do nothing. : (22 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee

    I probably would have driven away.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think that talking directly to him probably was not the best idea… but it kind of depends on where this was/how many other people were around. If it was dark and there were not a lot of other people around I’d be concerned that he had some kind of mental illness and drawing any attention to yourself might not be super safe.

    I definitely do not think calling the police was necessary though. I think that the store manager had the duty to take care of it. He could either go talk to the man or if he thought that he was scaring customers he could call the poiice.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Well, I voted call the police non-emergency number so they are aware, and also let a store manager know. As far as being too nice – when weird things happen like that… I tend to agree with your husband about ‘being too nice.’ I’ve heard it said that people tend to take advantage of women of are ‘too nice.’ Those girls who get into elevators with people that give them the heebie jeebies – just don’t do it. If somebody or something makes you uncomfortable, walk away and say something. Just, be careful. Oh, and get some mace/pepper spray and know how to use it. πŸ™‚

    -Bella

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I wouldn’t have spoken to the guy either… I know you were just being kind, but if he was on something he could have snapped at you out of embarrassment! You never know.

    I would have called the non-emergency police line. The police should deal with situations like this…

    And your husband is only overreacting because he loves you so much πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think you did the right thing.  They guy was right in front of you and it wasn’t like you couldn’t have gone back into the store if he was really a threat.  I probably would have called the police, just so they would have been able to get him care that he needed (I agree with you that he may have been mentally disturbed or on drugs).  

    Post # 9
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It’s good that you told the store manager and that your fiance called the police. While the man might not have been currently dangerous, exposing themselves in public is often the first criminal act of people who eventually become rapists. Of course, not all flashers are future rapists, but it certainly pays to be cautious. I would be careful when alone in the area around the store for the near future, if nothing else I would want to avoid seeing half-naked crazy parking lot people!

    Post # 10
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Um i never talk to “strange” people because it draws attention to you. I’m with your husband on this one–you can never be too paranoid.

    Remember–you’re in CAlifornia now. There are a lot more wackos out there. When I lived in Cali we had alarm systems on our homes and everything. And out here in the midwest people are comfortable leaving their doors locked and that’s it.

    You really do have to be more careful out there. I would have turned around, walked back in the store, told the manager, and requested an escort to my car and then i would have left IMMEDIATELY.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee

    Yeh, but definitely glad that all went well.  BEE Careful (I know lame, I couldn’t help myself).

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Victorian Gardens of Two Sisters

    Where in California are you from, Mrs. Spring?

    When I lived in Los Angeles I’d drive my boyfriend (now ex) to work every once in a while just outside of Little Tokyo, where homeless people lined the sidewalks.  On multiple occasions I saw people completely naked, I saw one man crossing the street with just a t-shirt on.  At the time I didn’t do anything, but now that I think about it I probably should have called the police to let them know. 

    Standing in a store parking lot is a little different, though.  Especially if it’s a small town.  In LA I really didn’t think twice about it…

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee

    Was this in San Francisco? I saw a guy exposing his bottom half as I was walking around on my lunchbreak – he was homeless and looked like he may be on drugs, I just ignored him as he walked past me.  It’s really sad that there are lots of homeless folks in the city that you get used to seeing πŸ™

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @ejs: In parts of Canada, in the suburbs, most people leave their front doors unlocked all day long. My mom never locks her front door & I’m pretty sure none of her 20 closest neighbours do either.

    Post # 16
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    holy smokes, recessionista, you mean people could just walk right in? Yikes! Once, we had two drunk guys just walk right into our sorority house and I went and grabbed my baseball bat and at 2am told them they needed to leave or i’d call the cops, while i held it in my phone. i was scared out of my minds!

    I’m just very very paranoid in general. I never want to look back and say, “well it didn’t seem unsafe at the time”

    Bad things can happen in small towns, too. All it takes is somebody passing through, or a drug addict who could snap or anything.

    I live all alone. 23 year old girl, two cats, and a house. I think the only way I sleep soundly at night is knowing I installed a very safe home security system. If you break in, the alarm goes nutso and the cops are here within 2 minutes because I pay an EXTRA fee each month to be tied to the police station. Some people here say I’m paranoid, but all my friends and family back home in the OC and las vegas think this is pretty normal behavior.

    I mean, ya’all remember Ted Bundy, right? Well educated, good looking, seemed totally normal and “safe”…yeah. People freak me out!

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