Post # 1
Hi fellow bees,
I am having a for real issue with who I’m going to need to tip. Please help me! Here is the run down
1. Person planning my wedding at the hotel. I spent 1800 to rent the place, do I need to tip her?
2. I know I need to tip the pastor, but do I need to tip the music coordinator? I spent 350 on the church/music. I will get our singer a gift card.
3. DJ-It is a company and the person DJ ing it works for the company.
4. Photographer-the photog owns the company(although she has gone above and beyond so I may get her a gift card for dinner somewhere,
5.The florist also is an independent florist.
6. I don’t think its customary to tip the cake person, is it?
Post # 4
If the photographer owns the business, I don’t think you should tip. I don’t think you’re supposed to tip the proprietor of a business.
Post # 5
The officiant gets tipped? I had no idea.
Post # 6
@TheFutureMcBride: I don’t think it’s typical for the officiant to get tipped. But if you are having a wedding in a church, you are usually expected to make a donation to the church as well as paying the pastor.
Post # 7
I had to give the church $600. A portion of that money goes to the church, a portion goes to the officiant (priest), a portion goes to the music director, and then a little bit goes to the altar servers. Because they each get part of that money, I don’t feel the need to tip them on top of it. In fact, seeing as I’m only taking up an hour of their time they’re getting paid pretty well already!
Post # 8
What about caterers and servers?
Post # 9
@Violet Violet: That will depend I think on who is catering and what you are already paying for…My reception venue (hotel) provides the catering and I am already going to be paying a 17% gratuity that they call a “service tax”…which is added onto my bill BEFORE tax is calculated. RIDICULOUS. So no, I will not be tipping the caterer!
Post # 10
@dance: my service charge is 21% I’m with you on not tipping the caterer
Post # 11
1. Person planning my wedding at the hotel. I spent 1800 to rent the place, do I need to tip her? Yes…she isn’t pocketing the $1800. I would place her in the same category as a waiter.
2. I know I need to tip the pastor, but do I need to tip the music coordinator? I spent 350 on the church/music. I will get our singer a gift card. No…if they aren’t actually performing at the ceremony then I wouldn’t tip.
3. DJ-It is a company and the person DJ ing it works for the company. Yes.
4. Photographer-the photog owns the company(although she has gone above and beyond so I may get her a gift card for dinner somewhere, No
5.The florist also is an independent florist. No
6. I don’t think its customary to tip the cake person, is it? No
Post # 12
Not to hijack the conversation… but, I had the same question about the following:
1. Hairstylist (owns her own company– we will not be going to her salon, she is coming to the hotel)
2. Second hairstylist– she is being brought by the hairstylist, it sounded like she was an independant, and not an employee of the primary hairstylist.
3. Makeup artist (owns her own company, will be coming to the hotel)
I thought I didn’t need to tip any of them, since they are essentially independent contractors and will pocket 100% of what I am paying. However, if the second hairstylist is really an employee, I guess I should tip her– but, isn’t that ackward that she’s the only one getting a tip?
Post # 13
So glad there is convo on this! I am also paying 17 percent “service fee” on the food and alcohol on top of the 1800 rental fee. And now that I remember on top of the “service fee” the hotel jacks up the caterer fee. For example, i’m going with the a catering company who if I ordered through them for lets say a picnic id pay lets say $10 dollars. But my hotel/ballroom charges $15 and they take that $5 dollars on top of the rental fee and “18% service fee” so now that I think of it, I don’t think i’m going to tip the coordinator, the facility seems to be making a lot already! I think I will only tip my dj (after i know how he did) and my pastor.
Oh one last question, the guy who is driving the limo, owns the limo service. Tip or no tip?
Post # 14
I would say no to the limo guy. If he owns the business, he is pocketing all the profit and has already set the price of his service as he sees fit.
Tipping culture is such a headache!
Post # 15
The general rule I read somewhere on here is that non-owners get tipped.
My parents are giving our rabbis $500. They didn’t say anything about getting paid extra unless we didn’t join the synogogue (which we did), but my mom’s father was a rabbi and I guess he always expected to get paid.