Post # 1
Hello Fellow Bees!
My fiance and I are moving into a house and thought it’d be really cool to have a Hers and His Shower for just our friends. Since we will need things for our home that don’t come from our place of registry (we registered at Target only), we though it’d be neat to have a gift card shower where people bring gift cards from Home Depot or Lowes and other places like that. I know it’s rude and tacky to request a certain type of shower so is there any way to go about having a shower like this without coming off rude? Obviously, we can’t host it ourselves. One of my bridesmaids I’m super close to and can tell her anything… Could I ask her to host if I pay for all food and decorations and whatnot?
Post # 3
I don’t think this would go over well, but you know your friends better.
I think it would be very awkward to sit there and watch someone open gift card after gift card. I think something like a stock the bar party would be better received, and there’s still quite a few bees who would call that tacky or rude.
Post # 4
@dreamer1288: We had a gift card shower for a friend of mine. BUT the only reason we had it that way is because she was living in Colorado with her FI at the time. He is military and they were getting ready to move to be stationed in Japan and there was no way we could ship everything from Pennsylvania to Colorado.
Under any other circumstance, I don’t think I would be inclined to go to a gift card shower. But, like a PP had said, you know your friends better than we do.
Post # 5
This almost sounds more like a housewarming party than a shower. Is it an option to go that route? (Then there’s a lot less etiquette involved.) Of course, you can’t exactly register for a housewarming party, though I always bring a gift of some kind when I attend housewarming parties.
If you do a shower, the host of the shower could also communicate to your friends that you are registered at Target and would also love gift cards to [insert places here]. Although if you’re going that way, I agree with @AB Bride: that I wouldn’t sit around and open gift cards (and make people feel self-conscious about monetary amounts). And you may still have some friends that don’t feel right bringing gift cards to a shower, as that’s not as much the norm.
Post # 6
@AB Bride: A Stock the Bar party seems silly to us as A. We aren’t big drinkers and B. It isn’t anything we can actually use in our new lives. We were just trying to think of something to help us renovate our new house and with gardening stuff. I don’t think I’d want to sit around and watch gift card after gift card being received (where monetary amounts wouldn’t have to announced.. I agree that WOULD be tacky and awkward) but there would also be games, food, and football watching. It’d be a very laid-back atmosphere with maybe 10 – 12 of our closest friends. But I don’t want to be tacky either.
Post # 7
You can spread it through word of mouth or put on your wedding website that you’re registered at Target but are also working on renovating your home and would love gift cards for Home Depot or Lowe’s as well. But there’s really no way to have an official ‘gift card shower’, it’s just not polite to tell guests what kind of gift they have to bring – and honestly, neither is trying to have that much say over your shower since you’re not (and shouldn’t be) the host.
Post # 8
FYI, Lowe’s does not do registries and it is very difficult to register at Home Depot.. We did go ahead and register at Home Depot but they give you two sheets of paper and a pen and you have to walk around that entire gigantic store and write down the SKU number and describe the product. Very archaic and silly. Lol I think gift cards would have been a better idea!! 😉