Post # 1
So I have been married now for 3 weeks and one of the best parts is I gained a bonus-son this day too not only a husband. I think step sounds evil “Wicked step mother” or ya this is my “step-son” I think it has such negative conotations that I decided we will call each other a “BONUS”. We’re lucky to have eachother and even though he’s 3 he conveys it all the time. The day of the wedding, he was the ring bearer, walks into my hotel room and says, “Oh My God!” (one of his favorite sayings it’s terrible but so cute) “You look beautiful.” Looks at my sister Charlette and says “Char Char did you see Sa’s dress?” it was adorable. (My name is MelisSA, but since he was a baby he’s called me Sa) Puckers up his mouth and pulls on my hands to give him me a big kiss. It was sooo cute 🙂
Anywho, is it rude for me to correct people when they call him my step-son and/or will I sound crazy if I do? We really want to stick to the bonus idea.
Because everything is better with pics 🙂
Post # 3
Awww that’s sweet! What a wonderful thing between you and your bonus son 🙂
People will probably get confused when you say “this is my bonus son”. But let them be confused. This is something for you two. People will figure it out. I think it’s okay to smile huge and say “he’s not my step-son…he’s my BONUS son!”
Post # 4
I think that is so cute =) I think i would just nicely explain to them what you are choosing to call your relationship, as long as you aren’t rude about it it won’t be rude to correct because its just something you have decided is best for you and i don’t think you would sound crazy.
Post # 5
What an adorable picture! You are both lucky to have each other for a bonus-son and bonus-mom! 🙂 That said, you’re the first person I have ever heard use that term so if/when you correct others who use “step-” do so with a smile; most folks probably have never considered any negative connotations of “step-” when they say it.
“Bonus” is cute, hope it catches on!
Post # 6
That’s so sweet! I love that you are going to call him that!
However, in general, I don’t think it’s very nice to correct people when they’re not actually wrong. If it’s people you know well, they’ll figure out (or you can explain to them) that you call him your “bonus son,” and if it’s just the receptionist in the doctor’s office (for example), it really doesn’t matter. He won’t be confused – he’ll come to understand that most people refer to that relationship as “step,” but that you guys have your own special name for it.
(BTW, I don’t think “step” has to signal anything bad – I am very close to both my stepmom and stepdad, and for me the terms have no negative connotation. But unfortunately I realize that in pop culture they often do.)
Post # 7
this is so sweet! Bonus Son. i love it.
Post # 8
I like the term “bonus” as well…I’ll have two bonus-kids next month. 🙂 I’m sure since you’re familiar with the term, you’ve already checked out the Bonus Families website. They have a lot of great articles on there! 🙂
Congratulations on both your marriage and your bonus son!
Oh, and back to the original question…I don’t think I’d correct people. To me, I think it’s more important that the kids feel like I value them as a bonus in my life. It’s not about how everyone else views our relationship.
Post # 9
He’s very cute! A big bonus!