(Closed) He’s a bonus not a step

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Awww that’s sweet! What a wonderful thing between you and your bonus son πŸ™‚

People will probably get confused when you say “this is my bonus son”. But let them be confused. This is something for you two. People will figure it out. I think it’s okay to smile huge and say “he’s not my step-son…he’s my BONUS son!”

Post # 4
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that is so cute =) I think i would just nicely explain to them what you are choosing to call your relationship, as long as you aren’t rude about it it won’t be rude to correct because its just something you have decided is best for you and i don’t think you would sound crazy.

Post # 5
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What an adorable picture! You are both lucky to have each other for a bonus-son and bonus-mom! πŸ™‚ That said, you’re the first person I have ever heard use that term so if/when you correct others who use “step-” do so with a smile; most folks probably have never considered any negative connotations of “step-” when they say it.

“Bonus” is cute, hope it catches on!

Post # 6
5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s so sweet! I love that you are going to call him that!

However, in general, I don’t think it’s very nice to correct people when they’re not actually wrong.  If it’s people you know well, they’ll figure out (or you can explain to them) that you call him your “bonus son,” and if it’s just the receptionist in the doctor’s office (for example), it really doesn’t matter. He won’t be confused – he’ll come to understand that most people refer to that relationship as “step,” but that you guys have your own special name for it.

(BTW, I don’t think “step” has to signal anything bad – I am very close to both my stepmom and stepdad, and for me the terms have no negative connotation. But unfortunately I realize that in pop culture they often do.)

Post # 7
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

this is so sweet! Bonus Son. i love it.

Post # 8
49 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

I like the term “bonus” as well…I’ll have two bonus-kids next month. πŸ™‚ I’m sure since you’re familiar with the term, you’ve already checked out the Bonus Families website. They have a lot of great articles on there! πŸ™‚


Congratulations on both your marriage and your bonus son!


Oh, and back to the original question…I don’t think I’d correct people. To me, I think it’s more important that the kids feel like I value them as a bonus in my life. It’s not about how everyone else views our relationship.

Post # 9
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

He’s very cute!  A big bonus!

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